The early weeks of pregnancy are fragile—and confusing. Here, the answers to your questions.
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enjoy private time
You can calm jagged nerves and regain a sense of self by setting aside bits of time daily for your own mental health. Some simple ideas: reading a good book while enjoying a cup of tea, soaking in a bath with a scented candle burning or responding to e-mail from friends.
Negotiate with your husband a regular time when he will be responsible for the baby. “Dads need to bond and to spend one-on-one time with the baby,” says Dena Jarog, a pediatric clinical nurse specialist and mother of two (soon to be three) in Spencer, Wis. “I learned that it built confidence in my husband when I went into another room while he played with our son every night. And besides, no matter how often he told me I was beautiful, I couldn’t feel it until I had some time away from being the walking cafeteria.”
“Stay in your pajamas for the whole week!” advises Coral Lee Humphrey of Canoga Park, Calif., who is expecting her third child. Let the answering machine screen calls, let dust bunnies collect in the corners, and let your buddies prepare a week’s worth of meals so you won’t have to do a thing but turn on the oven. Involve your husband in the process of organizing where the baby’s things are kept so he can pitch in with carting and cleaning up.
Instead of just keeping you company, put friends to work running errands, doing laundry, cooking dinners and cleaning.