The First Time
Sex after having a baby poses unique challenges. Here are some fun solutions.
New mom Bonnie Doyle, 33, found that a more old-fashioned remedy still works well: “A glass of wine beforehand can do wonders,” she says. So can a warm bath and lots of foreplay.
Problem Your breasts spout like Mount Vesuvius when your partner touches them.
Solution Nurse or pump before sex, and accept that your breasts have taken on a whole new role in your life. “Many people find the milk aspect sexy and fun,” Berman says. If your partner is not one of them, buy yourself a sexy bra, stuff some nursing pads in it and keep it on during sex.
Problem With your extra baby weight and stretch marks, you hardly feel sexy.
Solution Indulge in something that makes you feel like a hot mama, whether it’s thigh-high stockings or an aromatherapy bubble bath. “I got a Brazilian bikini wax,” recalls Robin Stoltz, 28, mother of 6-month-old Zoe. “It was something different, and it made me feel really sexy.”
Finally, if your self-confidence begins to falter, keep in mind the words of Alex Roberts, 35, father of
9-month-old Katy: “Your husband is going to be so thrilled to have sex with you again that he will definitely not care about things like stretch marks.”