“I love being a mom. I feel like life is now complete.” Melisande Green, Los Angeles
At age 37, I found out I was expecting and I was thrilled. I had been separated previously from my husband; but at the time, we were back together. Once I knew I was pregnant, I began to feel as if I needed to watch out for my life in a bigger way. The same problems with my husband kept surfacing, so I filed for divorce when I was six weeks pregnant.
I was sick my entire pregnancy. And, because I was single, when I came home from work and didn’t feel good or my back hurt, there was no one to help me cook dinner or clean. I had to do most things on my own. Luckily, I had people in my life who knew I was alone and jumped in. My cousin Beth helped a great deal by making dinner or inviting me to her house to just hang out. I also had a male friend who assembled furniture and did some handyman stuff for me.
For most of my pregnancy, I was sad because I was going through a divorce, and I would cry a lot. I was really concerned that my baby would be a sad baby. So, I tried to find outlets that made me happy, such as dancing. I also did yoga and Pilates once a week. Exercise made me feel better and that my baby was going to be OK.
Beth came with me to the hospital and supported me during labor. When my daughter, Naila, was born, I thought, “This is the beginning of our life together.” She is a happy, mellow baby and the light of my life.