Take care of yourself
You will need frequent sanity breaks, so get out of the house, alone or with your husband, even if it’s just for a walk to the park and back. When getting out seems impossible, invite other new moms over to your house for that much-needed adult conversation. If you can’t afford a nanny, consider hiring a high school student to help with child care or simple chores for a few hours in the afternoon.
Try, early on, to establish a regularly scheduled “date night” to keep a sense of intimacy between you and your husband. If the daily stresses cause too much strife between the two of you, seek counseling before the situation worsens. Also, give your husband a night out with friends once in a while, and make sure you get in girlfriend time out of the house every now and then.
Most important for those really insane, sleep-deprived moments is to remember what really counts — not a clean house, the blinking light on the answering machine or the stack of unsent birth announcements, but your two happy, healthy, adorable babes.