3 Sex Tips That Help You Bring Sexy Back After Baby

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Lots of new moms aren't exactly in the mood for sex once Baby arrives, but if your guy isn't initiating either, don't assume he's not interested. A study from the University of Michigan suggests that a key reason dads avoid nooky is that they're worried about hurting their still-recovering partner. But you can feel close again without actual intercourse, says sexologist Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., coauthor of The Normal Bar: the Surprising Secrets of Normal Couples: "It's about connecting in a physical and emotional way." Here's how.

Plan a Baby-Free Date Night

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Getting away from diapers will remind you both that you're people, not just parents, Schwartz says.

Focus on Foreplay

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Sensual massages and oral sex are just as fun now as they were when you referred to deeds by the "bases."

Schedule Sex

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Yes, really—putting intimate time on the calendar builds anticipation, says Schwartz. Just keep the appointment name PG, lest an alert for "Operation Orgasm" pops up on your phone while your coworker is looking.

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