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The First Time

Sex after having a baby poses unique challenges. Here are some fun solutions.


Problem: You’re as dry as a desert.
Solution: Because your estrogen levels drop after giving birth, vaginal dryness is a common problem, especially if you’re breastfeeding. “Use lots of lubrication,” recommends Rachel J. Masch, M.D., an assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology at New York University Medical School. You can also ask your doctor about prescribing a topical estrogen cream, which can plump up vaginal tissues without affecting your ability to breastfeed.New mom Bonnie Doyle, 33, found that a more old-fashioned remedy still works well: “A glass of wine beforehand can do wonders,” she says. So can a warm bath and lots of foreplay.

Problem: Your breasts spout like Mount Vesuvius when your partner touches them.
Solution: Nurse or pump before sex, and accept that your breasts have taken on a whole new role in your life. “Many people find the milk aspect sexy and fun,” Berman says. If your partner is not one of them, buy yourself a sexy bra, stuff some nursing pads in it and keep it on during sex.

Problem: With your extra baby weight and stretch marks, you hardly feel sexy.
Solution: Indulge in something that makes you feel like a hot mama, whether it’s thigh-high stockings or an aromatherapy bubble bath. “I got a Brazilian bikini wax,” recalls Robin Stoltz, 28, mother of 6-month-old Zoe. “It was something different, and it made me feel really sexy.”

Finally, if your self-confidence begins to falter, keep in mind the words of Alex Roberts, 35, father of 9-month-old Katy: “Your husband is going to be so thrilled to have sex with you again that he will definitely not care about things like stretch marks.”


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