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Flowers, candy, and back rubs are great, but if you don't bring the compassion into play, you're only doing half of the job.
But what does compassion really mean? Don't go running to Dictionary.com: think about what compassion means to you specifically, and where it's lacking in your life, your career, and your relationship. My guess is that you haven't considered this as much as you have considered concepts like love, understanding, and caring...
Read on to discover 30 ways compassion can truly change your relationship for the better. Being a little more compassionate with your partner could bring you more joy, happiness, and maybe even more mind-blowing orgasms...just sayin'!
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1. Let go of expectations and compassionately accept what happens spontaneously.
2. Stop asking, "What's wrong?" Compassion doesn’t mean something has to be wrong. Instead ask, "What do you need from me in this moment?"
3. Crappy days happen. Accept them, embrace them, and be there for your partner when he/she has one. Caveat alert: Make sure your compassion is needed in that moment, otherwise you might just end up annoying your partner!
4. Don't get stuck in stereotypical replay. Nothing's worse than the standard, "So sorry for your loss," or "Man, that sucks." Get out of the habit of saying what you've heard a million times.
5. Talk about compassion. Just as you communicate about sexual desires, you should communicate about compassion: "A little to the left, please!"
6. Your needs versus your partner's. This is the assumptive "compassion" rule. Just because your definition of compassion is "X", doesn't mean it's someone else's.
7. No emotion required: Some people emote compassion with emotions, but others don't...so don't feel the need to be a sobbing mess!
8. The power of touch does wonders. Touch your partner, and let him or her feel your presence without saying a word.
9. And on that note: Listen up and shut up. Oh, we humans need to have our voices heard, but being compassionate is about being there for someone else.
10. Admit you're wrong. This is a sticky icky, but it can be a big compassion moment in a relationship.
11. Sharing your own story can bridge a gap and connect you with your partner in times of need.
12. Be truthful: Honesty equals compassion!
13. Little things matter. Simple gestures, like hand-picked flowers, say a lot.
14. Never, ever, ever say "I understand." Chances are, you don't completely. Instead, say, "Tell me more about how you're feeling."
15. Stop prying. If your partner doesn't want to talk, then give him or her space.
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