Three weeks before the birth of my first daughter, when I was swollen, uncomfortable and horrified by my bloated body, distended fingers and inability to see my toes, my midwife suggested I have more sex.
"Seriously," she told me. "If you want her to come sooner, try having more sex."
While every mother has an unbreakable bond with her child, some parent-child relationships are stronger than others. And, as it turns out, 2 in 5 children grow up lacking secure attachment to their parents, according to a recent review of more than 100 studies and 14,000 children. These children are more likely to do poorly in school and suffer from depression than children who are securely attached to their parents.
When I got pregnant, I was bound and determined to look good after the baby was born. I admired those moms in my Facebook newsfeed whose hospital pictures showed them smiling with makeup on as they cuddled their newborn. That was totally going to be me. I even imagined all the comments people would make in on those first few pictures. "Congratulations! Baby and mama look great!"
In retrospect, this was a crazy notion. (Can I blame it on the hormones?) None of those things happened. Oh sure, people congratulated me on my baby, but I did not look good. Not at all.
Just when you thought giving birth was the hard part, you hit some serious breastfeeding hiccups (not the cute kind your baby makes after dinner). But as any new mother can attest, breastfeeding isn’t easy. In fact, you’ve probably wondered if it’s really worth the blood (yes, blood), sweat, and tears.