You successfully made a baby (that was the fun part!) and by now you have this whole pregnancy thing down. Labor, though, is fast approaching—a fact you may simultaneously dread and cheer. But even if this is Baby #1, you can approach L&D with the cool of a pro who’s delivered a whole passel of kids. Turns out confidence is key to sailing through your birth: Self-assured women felt more in control, believed more strongly in their capacity to cope and were better able to use the childbirth techniques they’d learned than their more fearful peers, according to research from Ohio State University. To get you there, we’re delivering everything you need to set your mind at ease.
Face Down Your Fears
“Giving birth is a highly emotional and largely uncontrollable event, so it’s important to discuss what you’re afraid of beforehand,” advises Jenny Keller, M.D., director of the residency program in Obstetrics and Gynecology at George Washington University in Washington, D.C. Chatting frankly with your doctor can make you more at ease and upbeat—and approaching labor with a positive attitude can help you feel less pain, avoid C-sections and feel satisfied with your experience, a study in BMC Pregnancy and Childbirth suggests. Read on to put your L&D anxieties in perspective.
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THE FEAR: “I’ll need a C-section.”
How likely it is: You’ve likely heard the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention stat that almost 33 percent of births are done by Caesarean, but that doesn’t mean you’re facing a one-in-three chance. First-time moms who aren’t carrying multiples, hit full term and go into labor spontaneously have a C-section rate of less than 15 percent, according to a study in the American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology.
Score better odds: You may want to hire a doula—a nonmedical labor coach—who’ll be in the room along with your OB/GYN: Women attended by a doula were 40 percent less likely to deliver by C-section, research published in the American Journal of Public Health showed. Doulas, including those in the study, help you into positions, massage your back and advocate for you from check-in through delivery (whereas your doctor or midwife will pop in and out; your partner will be there, but as a rookie he’ll have fewer tools to help). A separate review of studies found that the difference stems partly from a doula’s undivided attention and ability to help your partner help you. Some hospitals provide a free doula service (ask at the one where you’ll deliver); otherwise you can get a recommendation from your physician or hire one through dona.org. Some insurers will reimburse the fee; if cost is still an issue, doulas-to-be often offer their services for free or reasonable rates. (Google “doula training” in your area to find one who is in the process of being certified.)
What to do: If your doctor wants to schedule a Caesarean, ask about trying labor first. If the recommendation is a mid-labor surprise, discuss with your provider the benefits (e.g., baby’s quick exit if his heart rate is falling), risks (a longer postpartum recovery) and alternatives (trying another position or simply giving yourself more time), suggests Shelley Scotka, a doula in Austin, Texas. If a C-section is your best bet, you’ll probably sign a consent form and be in the O.R. within a half-hour, notes Laura Riley, M.D., medical director of labor and delivery at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston. The surgery will take about 45 minutes, and your partner can almost always stay with you.
THE FEAR: “I won’t handle the pain.”
How likely it is: Labor will hurt, but you have options—and even if you decline drugs, the worst is over fast. “The pain has a purpose: It drives us into movements and positions that help labor progress,” Scotka says. Most women feel able to manage the early and active stages of delivery, which are by far the longest portion; the relatively shorter period of transition (typically one to three hours) is toughest. “The good news is that pushing is usually right around the corner, and then, of course, the euphoria of the birth,” Scotka says. If med-free isn’t your thing, or your pain management plan isn’t working, just say the word and relief—like an epidural— will be on its way.
Score better odds: Sign up for yoga. Prenatal yoga practitioners reported less pain during labor, a small study in Complementary Therapies in Clinical Practice found, and it’s no surprise: The pairing of movement and breath builds endurance, teaches you to breathe deeply and helps you relax into discomfort, whether that’s Warrior pose or labor pains. Try visualization, too, recommends Scotka: Write down a scene that places you in a relaxing setting, like the beach where you spent your honeymoon. Fill it with sensory details (the sound of the surf, the smell of plumeria) and have your partner read it to you when a doozy of a contraction hits. Hearing it will trigger the relaxation response, making it easier for you to mentally escape mid-contraction.
What to do: Go to a birthing class— or take one online at hopkinsmedicine.org. In addition to the breathing techniques and positions you learn, there are other medication-free tactics to lower the pain—or at least make you better able to tolerate it. But if all the birthing-ball bouncing in the world can’t help you get a grip on your contractions, opt for an epidural, anesthesia inserted into your lower back that numbs you from the waist down, or intravenous narcotics, which dull the pain for two to six hours. Contrary to popular belief, an epidural doesn’t up your chances of needing a C-section, according to a study in The New England Journal of Medicine. But do be aware that an epi can extend your active labor, says a new study in Obstetrics and Gynecology, so talk to your doctor. Still nervous? Ask for a consultation with an anesthesiologist, Keller recommends.