12.29.11 Pregnancy, labor and life with your child
As you head into the New Year, either pregnant or with a new baby in your arms, you might think you have enough on your plate without adding more plans, goals or resolutions. You’d be right except that now that you have a child, your life is all about plans, goals and resolutions: Plans for what life with a new baby will be like, personal and family goals you want to achieve and resolutions to do the best you can every day. You’re going to need lots of perseverance, inspiration and, yes, resolutions to raise your child. So here’s a list to keep you on track during the months and years ahead.
Five resolutions for pregnancy:
1. I will look in the mirror every day and tell myself I’m fabulous. Then I’ll spend the day being fabulous. 2. I will eat more fruits and veggies and fewer Hot Pockets and Doritos. 3. I will go for a walk, do some yoga, pick up some weights and stretch. 4. I will ask more questions at my prenatal visits. 5. I will keep an open mind and heart when people offer me advice.
Six resolutions for labor:
1. I will not compare my birth experience with those of my friends, sister or mother. 2. I will only invite people into my labor room who support my family and me. 3. I will get up, walk and change positions as often as possible. 4. I will remind myself that this is a new and unique experience for my baby and me and if labor doesn’t go the way I thought it would, so be it. 5. I will not call anyone mean names or blame them for my labor, (even though women in the movies do) and remember that my husband/partner is going through a big change too. 6. I will remember that billions of women have had babies before and if they can do it, so can I.
Seven resolutions for the first week of parenthood:
1. I will be thankful that my baby and I came through birth healthy and well. 2. I will be gentle with my body and let it heal in its’ own time. 3. I will take all advice with the intention it is offered and a grain (maybe a shaker) of salt. 4. I will ask for help. 5. I will understand that many women have done this before, that there’s more than one way to do things and my way is a good way too. 6. I will remember that it’s only sleep and there will be time for that later. 7. I will remind myself that I’ve been given the greatest gift of all – my own child to raise thoughtfully, carefully and with the best abilities I have.
Eight resolutions for the rest of your life:
1. I will do my best every day to be kind to my self, my family and my child. 2. I will remember that I’m raising the child in front of me, not the one in the book or the movies and I’m not re-raising myself. 3. I will remind myself during the good times and the bad ones that this is a moment, not forever. Cherish it, value it or just get through it. 4. I will not micromanage my partner or husband by expecting him to parent my way. 5. I will not let a little mess and chaos ruin everything. 6. I will simplify, simplify, simplify, realizing that nothing needs to be all that complicated. 7. I will remember to speak to my child as politely as I expect him to speak to me. If I wouldn’t use that voice with my friend or coworker, why would I use it with my child. 8. I will forgive myself for occasionally losing my mind, temper and cool because nobody needs a perfect mother.
Jeanne Faulkner, R.N., lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband and five children. Got a question for Jeanne? E-mail it to firstname.lastname@example.org and it may be answered in a future blog post.
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