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Is Worrying Part of Motherhood?

Control what you can, let go of what you can’t and try not to hang on to fear.


Here’s what I want you to do when you find yourself worrying. 

Ask yourself: Do I have any control over this situation? 

If the answer is “yes,” take action and do what you can to change the situation. 

If the answer is “no,” accept it and move on. 

Control what you can, let go of what you can’t and try not to hang on to fear.

Need an example?  How about early trimester spotting?  Can you change that?  Probably not. In most cases, there are no specific actions you can take.  Are you miscarrying?  Maybe, but probably not.  Spotting is common. Call your midwife or doctor then, focus on a positive outcome.  Will that guarantee your pregnancy is safe?  Nope, but it’s a better course of action than focusing on a negative outcome.

Here’s another example:  You’ve been diagnosed with BV, have been trying to conceive for a while and aren’t pregnant yet.  Can you change that?  Yes!  Take your antibiotics, time your ovulation, have sex and wait and see.  If you’ve been trying more than a year – see a fertility specialist (6 months if your over 35).  Will worrying help you get pregnant?  Nope and in fact, high stress levels are linked to infertility. 

How about that kitten problem?  That one’s easy.  Ask your doctor for a toxoplasmosis test and get your partner to change the litter box.

What else can you do to stop worrying?  Read, learn, exercise, meditate, talk to a friend, go to work, cook dinner, stay active, get some rest and for heaven’s sake, go play with those kittens.  Then, take your newfound chill attitude with you as you start parenting because I tell you what…kids will make you worry big time.

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Jeanne Faulkner, R.N., lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband and five children. Got a question for Jeanne? E-mail it to

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