The day after I gave birth to my daughter, Olivia, I decided to take her for a walk down the hall. Within seconds, nurses came flying at me from every direction and herded me frantically back to my room. I had unwittingly set out for my walk carrying Olivia in my arms—a huge no-no, they told me, since I could become dizzy and fall due to blood loss. Most hospitals insist that you stroll with your baby in her wheeled bassinet. Who knew?
As delivery day draws near, you're probably an expert on everything from mucus plugs to swaddling. Chances are, though, you're not as clear on what your hospital stay will be like after your baby makes her entrance. Knowing in advance can make that time a lot more enjoyable. Here's how it often plays out.
Baby's Out, Now What?
In some hospitals, unless you specify otherwise, the baby is cleaned and evaluated immediately after delivery. Many women, however, prefer to hold their babies straight from the womb. "The first hour after birth is when the baby is most awake and alert," says Joyce McKeever, R.N., nursemanager of obstetrics at Jersey Shore Medical Center in Neptune, N.J. "It's a great time to get acquainted and start breastfeeding, which helps the mom's uterus contract."
When writing your birth plan or discussing the delivery with your doctor or midwife, specify how you want that first hour to go, says Meagan Francis, a mother of four and author of The Everything Health Guide to Postpartum Care (Adams Media). "If the baby is healthy, most everything can be put off a little while to give you one-on-one time," she says. For example, you may want to delay having antibiotic drops placed in your baby's eyes—a standard postbirth procedure that can blur vision temporarily. As with all medical care, you have the right to question or refuse any treatment that doesn't sit right with you.
After you've delivered the placenta and been stitched up if you had an episiotomy or tear (or your Cesarean section is complete), many hospitals will transfer you to a postpartum room. Others offer LDRP (labor, delivery, recovery and postpartum) rooms in which you remain during your entire stay.
Video cameras are generally welcome once the baby's born, but filming the actual delivery usually is not. More and more hospitals are embracing "family-centered care," offering private postpartum rooms that include a marginally comfortable fold-out bed for your partner. Rooming-in, or having your baby with you at all times, is also increasingly popular; and in some hospitals, it's obligatory.
While this practice provides a nice opportunity to bond with your baby, it can also be relaxing to let her spend a few hours in the nursery while you sleep. If you do so, tell the nurses whether they can give your baby formula or you want her returned to you for feedings. And if you'd like to breastfeed but it's not coming easily—which is not uncommon—ask if a lactation consultant can pay you a visit. Large hospitals usually have one on staff.
At the same time that hospitals strive for coziness, they've beefed up security, so don't be surprised if a wireless tracking device is attached to your baby's ankle. "If your baby is taken too close to an exit, the doors will go into lock-down mode," McKeever explains.
During your hospital stay, you're likely to have heavy bleeding that lessens with each subsequent day, finally letting up in about six weeks. To soothe your sore vaginal and rectal area, bring witch hazel pads or homemade "ice pads," recommends Heather Cook of Calgary, Alberta, Canada. "Take super-size menstrual pads, soak them in water and put them in your freezer," she says. "You can store them in the hospital's freezer in a baggie labeled with your name."