Leave young children home... And turn off your cell phone.
The fewer distractions you must contend with, the better you’ll be able to focus on the exam and consultation,” says Johanna Abernathy, M.D., an OB-GYN in Cedar Rapids, Iowa.
... but bring your partner
If we’ve all gotten to know each other during prenatal appointments, we’re more likely to work as a team if difficult decisions have to be made during labor and delivery,” Teal says. She suggests that your partner attend at least three prenatal appointments and that you encourage his presence when you have a particular worry. “A second set of ears can help when it comes to remembering and processing information,” she says.
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Don’t be afraid to tell your doctor anything, no matter how offbeat, shocking or insignificant it may seem. “Odds are, your doctor has heard it before,” Abernathy says. If you’re worried that your question is trivial, you can always preface it by saying, “This may seem like a silly question, but …”
If you’re confused about what the doctor is telling you, you might say, “I’m having trouble following you. Could you tell me what you mean in everyday language?”
Don't expect telepathy
It’s up to you to explain what’s on your mind so you and your doctor can work together as partners to make your pregnancy healthy, safe—and enlightening.
If you sense the office staff or physician are dismissive, discuss this openly with them. A busy OB may be unaware that she or she isn't meeting your needs.