Trying to get pregnant? Make sure you know the bottom line on baby-making—what you don't understand can affect your bub-to-be's health.
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Erika Stehl stood in front of her full-length mirror, fighting back tears. Barely nine weeks pregnant, her favorite jeans were already way too snug. “After a lifetime of trying to stay slim, I’m in a panic just thinking about piling on 25 to 35 pounds—or maybe even much more,” says Stehl, a freelance social worker in Port Washington, N.Y.
Even though they know better, some women think of the first weight gains of pregnancy as fat, with all of the accompanying distress. “Pregnancy pushes your body beyond its boundaries, so you can’t help but feel a loss of control,” says Adrienne Ressler, M.A., C.S.W., a body-image specialist at the Renfrew Center for Eating Disorders in Coconut Creek, Fla. “Your clothes don’t fit, your bra’s too tight and, on top of that, you’re facing the unknown: motherhood.” Hormonal shifts add an emotional whammy, which might leave you feeling depressed and frustrated and wondering if you’ll ever look the same again.
But gaining weight is critical for your baby’s sake, and learning to accept that weight is important for both of you. “If you’re very self-critical or if you’ve struggled with weight all your life, pregnancy changes can hit you hard,” says Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D., director of the Cincinnati Psychotherapy Institute. “But this is the time to let go of any self-loathing and put your efforts into recognizing your special qualities, appreciating the miracle your body is working and not worrying about being perfect.”
It’s all in the attitude
Just when you think you can’t stand another day of fatigue and nausea, you begin your second trimester, the queasiness goes away and your energy returns. By now there’s no squeezing into your old jeans, so you finally must buy some maternity clothes. Get ready for a happy surprise.
“The image of pregnancy has undergone a dramatic change,” says Ressler. “Just recently, a very pregnant-looking woman might have been viewed as vulnerable and matronly, but now it’s totally hip, trendy and beautiful to look pregnant.” A pregnant profile is now so stylish that women proudly bare their bellies in gym clothes and bikinis. “What was once taboo now looks sexy, smart and confident,” Ressler says.