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A big belly doesn't have to put a damper on your sex life.


Is your pregnant body the only reminder that you and your partner once had an active sex life? Sure, sex during and after pregnancy is definitely a new frontier, but it doesn’t have to be alien territory. Here’s a brief guide to keeping alive the sexual flame in your relationship—and the spark of romance that lit up your libido in the first place.

>> Get ready for some changes.

You may be sidelined by nausea, fatigue and your ever-expanding figure; your man may be inhibited by the baby’s presence and the transformation of your thighs from sculpted to upholstered. The climate in your bedroom may shift from torrid to chilly, and what always worked between the two of you might not work for a while.

That said, not all changes are necessarily negative. “I went on a photo shoot once with this supermodel when I was eight months pregnant,” says Susan S., a New York City writer. “The photographer paid a lot of attention to me, and I realized it was because I was so busty and voluptuous, and I felt really beautiful. If you enjoy the way you look, others will, too.”

>> Stick to the facts.

Pregnancy begets misinformation about sex the way sex begets pregnancy. Don’t fall prey to the myths. Here are a few things you may not have known:

- Most pregnant women do want sex. “I was as horny as a 17-year-old boy when I was pregnant,” reports Susan S. “Sex was all I thought about and all I wanted.” Increased hormone production and blood flow to the genitals can create serious heat, especially in the second trimester.

- Unless a woman is experiencing certain medical problems during pregnancy, any sexual activity that is not uncomfortable appears to be safe (see “Fast Fact,” below). “It’s the rare pregnancy in which sex is unsafe,” says Shari Brasner, M.D., an obstetrician at Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York City. “If you experience vaginal bleeding, placenta previa, preterm labor (or have a history of it) or ruptured membranes, you may need to abstain,” she says. The safest course is to check with your doctor first; it will put your and your partner’s minds at ease.

- After giving birth, you can’t count on breastfeeding or on an absence of periods for contraception.

>> Renew your courtship.

Prospective and new parents often ignore what’s happening between them outside of the bedroom. “Hold hands. Go for walks together. Get back into courtship behaviors,” advises Eugene, Ore., sex therapist Wendy Maltz, M.S.W. “Trouble comes when people think their relationship can go on autopilot.”



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