Let’s Talk About (Pregnant) Sex
If fears about ‘doing it’ are stressing you out, here’s what you need to know.
Sex can still be comfortable
The old standby missionary position for intercourse may not work for you now. Instead, try these options:
Spooning: Lie side by side with him behind you. This makes for more shallow penetration.
You on top: There’s no pressure on your belly, and you can control the speed and depth of penetration.
Side of the bed: You lie on your back on the edge of the bed with your knees bent and feet on the edge. He stands facing you. It’s like classic missionary, but he won’t be resting his body weight on you.
Living room love: Kneel on a couch with your belly facing the back of it; use your arms for support. He penetrates from behind.
You will have sex again after the baby comes
Just be aware that with the sudden drop of estrogen after delivery, your libido can plummet and the lining of your vagina thins out, making intercourse feel like you’re losing your virginity all over again. This can be particularly true if you’re breastfeeding.
Most docs recommend that you wait six weeks until after giving birth (even for oral sex). The goals are to allow your body to heal, avoid infection and deal with any psychological or emotional issues you and your partner may be feeling. When you do venture back, it’s important to make your partner aware that you may need plenty of foreplay (and possibly lubrication). Taking care of the baby for you whenever possible so that you can nap couldn’t hurt, either!