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Promises Promises

Right now, you’re super-motivated to make positive, lasting changes in your life. Meeting those goals (and sticking with them) is the tricky part. Here’s how to keep your vows—for your whole family’s sake.


Goal #4 Have a Great Delivery

Why it’s important:

Your attitude is everything, says Sharon Harkey, a certified nurse-midwife in San Diego. “Women lack confidence and tend to focus on the horror stories they’ve heard,” she says. “But you have to look at giving birth as a test, and you have eight months to study.”

Make it happen:

Take a childbirth class or educate yourself otherwise on the labor and delivery process so you know what to expect. And write a brief birth plan outlining your preferences on issues like pain relief and moving around during labor so you’re clear about your ideal experience.

Keep it going:

“Seek the advice of women who had a five-hour labor and everything went perfectly,” Harkey says. “During labor, if you don’t agree with your doctor or a nurse—say, if they’re pushing for a C-section you don’t want—ask, ‘Is my baby OK? Am I OK? Can we try giving it a little more time?’ But be flexible—the goal is definitely to have a healthy mom and a healthy baby.”

Goal #5 Quell Financial Worry

Why it’s important:

“Right now there’s such a culture of financial unpredictability, and when you commit to having a baby, you want to be able to predict

security,” says Amanda Clayman, LMSW, a New York-based mother of one and a therapist specializing in financial wellness. “But financial fears tend to feed themselves if you’re avoiding them.”

Make it happen:

Start by getting on the same financial page as your partner, Clayman suggests. “For each of you, what was your first memory of money? It will be something that was important enough to have it imprinted on you. Talk about that and how money was treated in your family and how it shaped you.” Clayman also recommends discussing financial priorities and figuring out ways to save what you can.

Keep it going: 

Keep fear at bay by having a frank discussion about your budget and what would happen if one (or even both) of you lost your job. “Not knowing how much you’re spending or not having a fallback plan will make any fear seem bigger than it is,” Clayman says. Your fallback plan may require you to face some uncomfortable realities, such as temporarily moving in with relatives or relocating. But remember, what your baby really needs is love and security, not a big house or fancy school district.


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