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How To Survive Separation Anxiety

Your baby screams and clings to you, wild-eyed, as if your leaving means instant peril. And in his mind, it does. “A baby doesn’t have the conceptual ability to trust that we’ll always return, so he protects our disappearance as if it’s a life-threatening event,” explains child psychologist Laura Markham, Ph.D. “His DNA programs him as if he’s living in the Stone Age; he doesn’t know he’s perfectly safe at day care. To him, when you walk out the door, he could be eaten by tigers.”

On Deadbeat Dads, Marital Bliss and Housework

We’re both working full-time. Leo is in preschool full-time. This week, I’d like to deliver a state of our family address. By which I mean, this week, I wanted to throttle my husband and call in sick.

“You have been away, our childcare fell apart, I had a weeklong-stomach bug, Leo developed the habit of trying to piss me off and you were anxious and distracted whenever you were around,” I’ll point out pleasantly.

When the Second Baby Arrives

That first baby is a big shock to the old lifestyle but it’s also kind of luxurious. There’s time for baby-rocking and eye-gazing. Life is filled with magic and surrounded by a rosy glow.  But with two kids, that magic can turn into chaos pretty darn quickly.  If you’re going to survive, you’d better whip yourself into shape.  We’re talking about organization, sleep scheduling, and the lessons kids learn when they’re no longer an only child.

No Comment: Mom Blogger Crowd-Sources Life

If you have a blog—or have ever considered mom blogging—you’ve probably pondered the experience of reading people’s comments. On your life. I relish the comments I get on this blog, because they make me feel like I’m part of a larger community, like I’m not just writing for my own benefit, and because I have, since I first embarked on this motherhood experience, embraced the idea that whatever we are as moms, we’re not alone.

Daycare, Preschool, Nanny-Share, SAHM or The Magical Childcare Solution?

Having researched almost 20 preschools, interviewed several seasoned nannies, and passed many mornings watching other people’s toddlers fingerpaint, I’m prepared to share my conclusive findings. Ready? Okay!

Here’s what you want at the beginning of a day: a kid who looks forward to his day. Here’s what you want at the end of the day: A kid who is able to enjoy dinner, bath and the little bit of time you have with him or her.

Childcare Trouble: Letting Our Nanny Go

One of the hardest parenting issues we’ve faced is the question of childcare. It’s an issue that has felt so complicated and stressful for so long that we often have to make appointments to talk about it, we aren’t allowed to just casually bring it up over dinner.

Making Your Best Friends As New Parents

Two very old friends found me on Facebook this week.  Back when our now college-age daughters were in the sandbox, we hung out together. Our daughters went to the same co-op preschool, had after school play dates and celebrated each other's birthdays.  The girls played dress up, had meltdowns and battled "those dumb boys" together. I unfortunely moved away and we slipped apart. 

Should You Hire a Postpartum Doula, Lactation Consultant or Baby Nurse?

Be prepared—caring for a newborn while recovering from childbirth is not easy. Before you get overwhelmed, seek assistance from one or more of these mother’s helpers. 

Postpartum Doula

What she does Cares for newborn; instructs and supports mother; performs light household chores. Doulas of North America (DONA) offers training and certification.

How to find one Ask your friends, childbirth educator or doctor, or search by ZIP code at Average cost: $30 per hour.

Back to Work

For many new moms, this past week has been focused on getting back to work. Maybe you're just coming back from maternity leave, or maybe you're getting back to work after a long summer break, or maybe the end of summer simply finds your thoughts shifting back to work.

Baby takes a Break

Getting away from it all—sort of
We're staying in a house on the water in Tampa with Aaron's family for a long weekend. It's balmy and beautiful, there's an egret standing on the patio...and I remain sleep-obsessed (possibly because I'm not getting enough sleep?). In fact, as I write, I'm sitting alone in the largest room of the house outside the door of the room where Leo is sleeping while all the other people in the house tiptoe around the perimeter.