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5 Words You Should Never Say to Your Kids (Or Should You?)

Not too long ago, a parent who didn't set firm rules, tell her children to behave themselves or punish them when they acted out was thought to be an irresponsible parent. Now, in contrast, some of the most popular and commonly used words in parenting are considered to be off limits for the up-to-date and discerning parent. When did these words become, well, dirty? Here are some examples:

Grandparenting 2.0

It used to be that a grandparent’s role was to coo at the baby and roll his or her eyes at mom’s newfangled parenting ideas. Not so much anymore.

More grandparents-to-be want to be helpful and up to date, and they’re willing to show up to class to prove it. Grandparent workshops and classes, such as the “Grandparenting 101” course at the Medical Center of Plano in Texas, are popping up across the country.

Daddy's Home!

For the first two years that new father Greg Barbera stayed home to care for his son while his wife returned to her job, he didn’t refer to himself as a stay-at-home dad (SAHD). He wasn’t ashamed—Barbera knew that his was an important, challenging and rewarding opportunity. But the arrangement didn’t sit as well with a lot of people the Durham, N.C.-based journalist encountered, so it simply became easier for Barbera to say, “I’m staying home right now and freelancing while I look for another job.”

How To Survive Separation Anxiety

Your baby screams and clings to you, wild-eyed, as if your leaving means instant peril. And in his mind, it does. “A baby doesn’t have the conceptual ability to trust that we’ll always return, so he protects our disappearance as if it’s a life-threatening event,” explains child psychologist Laura Markham, Ph.D. “His DNA programs him as if he’s living in the Stone Age; he doesn’t know he’s perfectly safe at day care. To him, when you walk out the door, he could be eaten by tigers.”

On Deadbeat Dads, Marital Bliss and Housework

We’re both working full-time. Leo is in preschool full-time. This week, I’d like to deliver a state of our family address. By which I mean, this week, I wanted to throttle my husband and call in sick.

“You have been away, our childcare fell apart, I had a weeklong-stomach bug, Leo developed the habit of trying to piss me off and you were anxious and distracted whenever you were around,” I’ll point out pleasantly.

When the Second Baby Arrives

That first baby is a big shock to the old lifestyle but it’s also kind of luxurious. There’s time for baby-rocking and eye-gazing. Life is filled with magic and surrounded by a rosy glow.  But with two kids, that magic can turn into chaos pretty darn quickly.  If you’re going to survive, you’d better whip yourself into shape.  We’re talking about organization, sleep scheduling, and the lessons kids learn when they’re no longer an only child.

No Comment: Mom Blogger Crowd-Sources Life

If you have a blog—or have ever considered mom blogging—you’ve probably pondered the experience of reading people’s comments. On your life. I relish the comments I get on this blog, because they make me feel like I’m part of a larger community, like I’m not just writing for my own benefit, and because I have, since I first embarked on this motherhood experience, embraced the idea that whatever we are as moms, we’re not alone.

Daycare, Preschool, Nanny-Share, SAHM or The Magical Childcare Solution?

Having researched almost 20 preschools, interviewed several seasoned nannies, and passed many mornings watching other people’s toddlers fingerpaint, I’m prepared to share my conclusive findings. Ready? Okay!

Here’s what you want at the beginning of a day: a kid who looks forward to his day. Here’s what you want at the end of the day: A kid who is able to enjoy dinner, bath and the little bit of time you have with him or her.

Childcare Trouble: Letting Our Nanny Go

One of the hardest parenting issues we’ve faced is the question of childcare. It’s an issue that has felt so complicated and stressful for so long that we often have to make appointments to talk about it, we aren’t allowed to just casually bring it up over dinner.

Making Your Best Friends As New Parents

Two very old friends found me on Facebook this week.  Back when our now college-age daughters were in the sandbox, we hung out together. Our daughters went to the same co-op preschool, had after school play dates and celebrated each other's birthdays.  The girls played dress up, had meltdowns and battled "those dumb boys" together. I unfortunely moved away and we slipped apart.