You don't need us to tell you about change (hellooo, new baby, new body, and new motherhood). But parenting advice changes over time, too. Here, three new recommendations for mothers of the 21st century.
When your colicky baby is crying endlessly, we're sure that means a splitting headache for you as a mom. But a 2012 found that mom's migraines—which are a painful fact of life for many people—may actually be the reason for her baby's colic, according to a report on CBSNews.com.
The study from researchers at the University of California, San Francisco, shows that "mothers who suffer migraines are more than twice as likely to have babies with colic," CBSNews.com reported.
“Colicky” is a label given to babies who cry for more than three hours a day, three days a week for more than three weeks. But most experts believe it is an overused, ambiguous term at best. “‘Colic’ is an old-fashioned term that actually means ‘upset stomach,’ which it usually isn’t,” says pediatrician Harvey N. Karp, M.D., author of the book and DVD The Happiest Baby on the Block (Bantam).
When choosing an alternative therapy for your baby, it’s essential to know what really works and is safe for the younger set. “There’s so little scientific evidence for safety or efficacy when it comes to the use of natural therapies for babies,” says New York City pediatrician Stuart Ditchek, M.D., author of Healthy Child, Whole Child (HarperCollins).
1. SPITTING UP:
Experts say spitting up, also known as acid reflux, is perfectly normal after your baby feeds or when he burps, coughs or cries. “Spitting up occurs in more than half of all infants up to 1 year of age,” says Richard So, M.D., a pediatrician at the Cleveland Clinic Children’s Hospital in Ohio. “Babies mainly spit up due to immaturity of the valve between the esophagus and stomach.”
Tanya is 12-weeks pregnant with her third child. She can’t keep a single thing down before two o’clock in the afternoon. It was the same with her first two pregnancies and while the nausea and vomiting are no better this time, her attitude is greatly improved. "I was so freaked out with the first baby because I was sure something bad would happen to one of us. With the second one, I was worried I wouldn’t be able to take care of my firstborn or that he’d see me vomit. With this one? Eh, it’s nausea. I barf. I’ll get over it."
Back from Maine, where it rained--no, actually, it poured--pretty much all day every day. Alone in the woods with my parents and the baby, we basically did nothing but chow down on my mom's awesome cooking and take an occasional rain walk. Now I feel like some large pale thing discovered under a rock, but according to the scale I'm just 4 pounds from a weight that would be acceptable to me--in clothes.
I love it when the days get cool. I love jogging without turning fuschia, I love how I feel like cooking hot meals every night, and I especially love how delicious it is to savor the end of summer in the form of huge, juicy tomatoes, perfect ears of sweet corn, and days when the warm sun on your shoulders feels relaxing and wholesome.
Allergen-free that is. Yup, in the past months I've gone from being rather circumspect about Leo's fussing to calling the pediatrician and demanding answers. When I called in the late evening and got the doctor on-call, she said with assurance (as though she was diagnosing the sounds of Leo's shrieks in the background) "This is colic, an immature intestinal system. And the baby is over-tired. If you can't feed him try chamomile tea with brown sugar in a bottle, then put him to bed."
As a new parent, you will get advice on everything from how to get your baby to sleep through the night to when she needs her first pair of shoes. It might not all be constructive counsel, however. “There is so much information out there, so many people telling parents about the right and wrong ways to do everything, but in most cases, if parents just trust their instincts, things are fine,” says David S. Geller, M.D., a pediatrician in Bedford, Mass., and a clinical professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School.
As a paranoid new mom, I spent the first days after Quinn's birth under self-imposed house arrest. Actually taking my girl out into the world seemed unbelievably stressful. But after a couple of weeks cooped up with the "colic queen," I had to get out. Our maiden voyage would be a trip to the grocery store.
Although my husband was willing to help, I was determined to handle the excursion alone. I planned to pop Quinn into her baby carrier/car seat, then head out, hoping for the best. But I soon realized that a simple trip to the store was even harder than I'd imagined.