When asked about their upcoming birth, some first-time moms respond with, “I’d like to go naturally, but I’m going to play it by ear.” As someone who said the same thing before my first birth, I get this.
We don’t want to commit to something when we’re utterly unsure of the process – what it will feel like, how we’ll respond, what might happen. In truth, we don’t commit because there’s a chance our plans might fail.
And with a first-time birth, the possibility of failure feels big. It’s not like you can practice being in labor!