When our first child was a few weeks old, my husband and I were struggling to get dinner on the table. Exhausted and overwhelmed, he looked at me and said, “How do parents get anything done?” How indeed, I wondered for weeks, struggling at home without help. I felt tired, lonely and a tad frustrated with my husband. Turns out these feelings are all too common. They can be dangerous, too.
For the first time writing this blog, I'm at a loss for words.
Writing about myself--every slight neurotic twitch, every consideration and reconsideration of the past nine months--has been pretty easy for me. It's perhaps unfortunate for my nearest and dearest, but self-analysis is my second nature. (Is there such a thing as "first nature"? If so, that'd be more accurate.)
There is no ‘correct’ age to wean your baby. Like diapers and pacifiers, breastfeeding is something that children outgrow at different ages.
If you’re breastfeeding, chances are you’re enjoying the closeness you share with your baby and the confidence that comes from knowing you’re giving him a healthy start in life. As your baby grows, however, you may find yourself being asked,
Everything seemed normal during Sherryl HartmanÂs pregnancy and labor five years ago. Her son was born healthy, and she had plenty of support from family and friends in her town of Elkridge, Md. A few days after delivery, however, the then-26-year-old Hartman began to feel depressed. ÂI just started bawling like a baby,Â she says. Late-night panic attacks soon followed: HartmanÂs heart would race and she would feel anxious and overwhelmingly emotional. It was difficult to control her strong urge to leave the houseÂand her newborn.
It's normal to experience a roller coaster of emotions after childbirth, says Steven Dubovsky, M.D., professor and chairman of the psychiatry department at State University of New York in Buffalo. Not only are your hormones still running high, but your entire life has changed. You have a new identity and more responsibilities. You might be overcome by the magic of childbirth yet regret that it did not go as planned (especially if you had a Cesarean section). You might feel insecure about being a parent.
Pregnancy was the healthiest time in my life. With baby on board, I finally found the motivation I needed to eat right, get enough rest and exercise. But the minute I delivered my son, my focus shifted entirely to him. I wanted the best for him, 24/7, and put myself entirely at his service. What new mom wouldn't?
Trang Burnett describes herself as rational and not prone to knee-jerk emotional reactions. Yet, when the Tampa, Fla., mother was pregnant with now-2-year-old son Bryson, all bets on her moods were off. "TV commercials really affected me—happy or sad, they always made me cry," recalls Burnett, 36.
Sound familiar? While pregnant, you will experience a gamut of emotions—many of which may be completely new to you. After delivery, the emotional roller coaster ride continues.
When Amy Buresh brought her newborn son, Noah, home from the hospital a year ago, she felt completely overwhelmed. "After about 13 hours of labor, I ended up having a C-section and was recovering from that as well as learning how to nurse, surviving on little sleep and trying to take care of Noah," says Buresh, who lives in Lincoln, Neb. "It was a little scary."
Part of putting your Supermarket Smarts to work is to make informed choices when eating fish and seafood during pregnancy. Although you should limit or avoid eating certain types of fish during pregnancy, there are still plenty of healthful options in the seafood department. There you can find lean sources of protein and healthful omega-3 fatty acids.
The more nutritious your prenatal diet is, the better off you and your baby will be. So those extra 300 daily calories (yup, only 300, and only in your second and third trimesters!) should be carefully chosen. And here's a thought: Keep up the good eating once your baby is born. Because before you know it, your little one will be reaching for what's on your plate. If any of the bad habits described here sound familiar, now's the time to lose them for good.
Undergoing fertility treatment is stressful enough, but women who conceive via in vitro fertilization (IVF) might have more tough times ahead once they become moms. While only 1.5 percent of women in the general population undergo IVF, Australian researchers found that 6 percent of women who sought help for postpartum depression and early-parenting problems had conceived using this method. Women who get pregnant with IVF should be forewarned that they could need additional support after delivery.