The early weeks of pregnancy are fragile—and confusing. Here, the answers to your questions.
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Thalia is 36 weeks pregnant and for the last few weeks, she’s been measuring large for dates. Her doctor sent her for an ultrasound, which revealed she has more amniotic fluid than some mothers do. A normal range of fluid at this stage of pregnancy is measured as between 5 and 25 centimeters or about 800-1000 mL.
My partner James and I have been together for two years, and since close to the beginning of our relationship, we discussed the possibility of having a child if things worked out well with us. I don’t have any children, but he has a 6 year-old son from a previous relationship and relishes the role of involved father. At our one-year anniversary in January 2012, we decided to officially start “trying” and I stopped taking birth control.
I was crying in the examining room.
The midwife looked concerned. "Has this happened to you before?" She meant the "faint line" on the pregnant test she'd just told me about.
I tried to wave away my tears with my hands. "No, no," I said. "I'm just emotional. But how can it be okay that I have a faint line? When I came here with my last pregnancy, the nurse said the line was nice and dark, and that it meant I was 'definitely pregnant.' So if the dark line was good, how can the faint line be fine, too?"
So, my boobs were sore. I felt a little... funny. But I didn't have my hopes up, since what had that gotten me so far? About $50 blown on home pregnancy tests and a feeling of defeat. But in a weird coincidence, I just happened to have my annual gyn exam--you know, an appointment I made about five months earlier--the day before I was supposed to get my period.
In a way, it's hard for me to believe, and I even now wonder if I'm jinxing myself by saying it: I'm pregnant. I'm pregnant!
I'm starting this blog privately before putting it out there in the world, and hopefully, knock on coffee table, by the time my second trimester is underway, I'll feel confident enough to make it "live." It's not that we're keeping it a secret--who, me? Turns out as lousy a secret-keeper about other people as I was in high school, I'm even worse in adulthood when it comes to my own news.
Kelli wrote this week, very upset and having an all-around tough time of it. She apparently had a normal period in August but only a speck of spotting in early September. She's having abdominal pain, cramping and urinary frequency. She's taken a few pregnancy tests and they've all been negative. Smart girl that she is, Kelli saw her doctor who told her she isn't pregnant but has a urinary tract infection (UTI); commonly called a bladder infection. Yuck, I hate those things.
Before my first pregnancy, I enjoyed a glass of wine with dinner and an occasional big, juicy chili dog. But even in those very first days after I conceived, the wine tasted flat and the hot dog repulsed me. Fast-forward a few weeks. With a positive pregnancy test in hand, I realized that my body knew I was pregnant before my mind did. Of course, the earliest symptoms of pregnancy wax and wane and are different for each woman; in fact, some women may experience (or notice) none of them. But several can crop up well before you even miss a period.
See your doctor several months before you want to conceive—and bring your partner. Doing so may help you prevent birth defects, pregnancy complications or prematurity, the March of Dimes reports.
Tell your doctor about any prescription or over-the-counter drugs or herbal remedies that you are taking.
Begin taking a prenatal vitamin with folic acid daily.
When you're trying to get pregnant, timing is everything. Perfect eggs and flawless sperm are useless if they don't hook up at the opportune moment. To make that happen, you need to have intercourse within 24 hours of ovulation (when the ripened egg is released from the ovary). OB-GYNs and fertility experts recommend having intercourse every other day before ovulation, especially in the week preceding it. That way, you're sure to have sex at least once during your fertile period each menstrual cycle.