When you find out you’re pregnant, you can almost feel your to-do list Growing from XL to OMG. There are books to read, rooms to redo, an almost absurd number of things to buy—and on top of it all, you’re supposed to morph into a responsible, even-keeled, fully actualized adult in nine months. Hellooo, intimidation. “Many women are afraid they’ll be found inadequate when it comes to pregnancy and being a mom,” says Laurel Schwartz, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in Stamford, Conn.
“They end up wasting the whole nine months worrying about falling short.”