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No matter how many successful working women have proved that you can be a devoted mother while also being your family’s primary breadwinner, there will always be someone who will question whether a new mom went back to work because she had to—that her husband must have lost his job, or this tragic circumstance wouldn’t have transpired.
But hey, I’ve also heard from plenty of stay-at-home moms who feel judged for swapping their power suits for diaper bags, so the situation seems ripe for controversy no matter who ends up staying home to care for the bub.
This morning when I dropped off my son at day care, I overheard one of the other moms say to her daughter, “Ok, let’s get to your classroom. I’ve got to make it to my spin class this morning.” I hate to admit this, but I felt a twinge of envy.
With Sandy top of mind this week, I wondered how working moms affected by the storm were dealing with the responsibilities of work and family when potentially faced with no electricity—and no day care! Do you do a double feature of your bub’s favorite show and try to sneak in an hour of work? Wait until bedtime before starting that new project? Or, just forgo it all together and chalk up your missed deadline to Mother Nature?
For several months I avoided telling the world I was pregnant, but after gaining about thirty pounds in the first trimester, people who knew me were starting to do double takes.
But what was the right way to tell people that I was following in January Jones and Scary Spice’s footsteps and carrying a “bastard baby” (a term I had heartlessly used several times in recent years) without having to rehash the brutal and gory details of the Jason drama?
Where you work has a big impact on your life as a working mama. To understand just what makes a company mom-friendly, I spoke with Jennifer Owens, editorial director of Working Mother and director of the Working Mother Research Institute about the magazine’s 2012 Working Mother 100 Best Companies.
This week’s news about infant sleep training reminded me of my own sleep-deprived first year as a mom. My son was not a great sleeper. In fact, he was a terrible sleeper. I had heard from friends that the first few months were going to be rough, but the same people said, “But don’t worry, by three months he’ll sleep through the night.” Well, three months came and went and then four and then five.
Even though I’ve been getting up before work to exercise since April, I still struggle to actually get out of bed when the alarm goes off. Struggle doesn’t quite cover it: I dread getting out of bed when the alarm goes off. The house is so dark, cozy and quiet, I’m so tired, and I just want to sleep in.
What does it mean to be a feminist? It means kicking the can down the road so other women can live their best lives. Whether you identify as a feminist or not, you’ve absolutely benefitted from the work other feminists have done on your behalf. If you’re a pregnant mother who will return to work after your baby is born, you have a radical feminist opportunity coming your way – breastfeeding.
I had a conversation recently with a fellow working mama and good friend who has a daughter around my son’s age. She was telling me about her daughter’s first haircut—an event she’s been anticipating (and dreading) for the past six months. Even though her daughter had asked for a haircut—saying specifically, “Mommy, I want a haircut”—my friend was worried that her daughter might react badly to the cut and that it would be an unpleasant experience for everyone.
This Monday Yahoo announced that 37-year-old Marissa Mayer would be its new president and CEO. The very same day, Mayer revealed she was pregnant—she’s due to have a baby boy in October— and she told Fortune magazine this about her maternity leave: "I like to stay in the rhythm of things. My maternity leave will be a few weeks long and I'll work throughout it."
One of the tenets of being a working mom is being busy. I know I am. I’ve got deadlines at work and wipes to pick up at Target and I really want to watch the next episode of Parenthood on Netflix, but first, I better set out my workout clothes for tomorrow morning so I’m not stumbling around half awake at 6 a.m. looking for socks, and that reminds me, my son needs an extra set of clothes for his preschool cubby so I should put those in his backpack by the door so I don’t forget them in morning rush, oh, and I really need to get that load of laundry done. Whew. See what I mean?
Dinnertime can be tough for working moms. I’m lucky—my husband is a personal chef and he takes care of all the grocery shopping and cooking in our house. Before we had my son, we would sit down to dinner after work and catch up on our day. It wasn’t necessarily fancy, but we always sat at our kitchen table and poured a glass of wine and chatted.