The first few weeks after your baby is born is most dificult. I had undergone a caesarian section and this made it more difficult to attend to my baby. Baby would wake up every 2 hours at night to feed and i was breast feeding and was practically awake all night. However, once she entered 3 months, things gor better. Thank god i had help in the first month from my mother in law and mum. Dont turn down anyone who wants to assit. Take all the help you can get. You will need it.


it takes baby Drine 5 days to open his bowel but when he gets too uncompartable, i peel an orange fruit,squeeze out 2 table spoons of juice and feed him,it takes him less than 4 hrs before he releases stool.mothers facing the same please try it though its good to first inquire 4m Dr.(pediatrician).


It seems like everyone else is more excited about my pregnancy than I am! While everyone else is cooing to me about baby clothes, teaching baby this-n-that, taking baby here-n-there, and all the joys of being pregnant. All I see is responsibility. How in the world do I find good daycare when I live in one of those transitional neighborhoods? How will I deal with the first three months when anyone that would be able to help out lives in another state andmy husband professes not to be the nurturing type and refuses to change into one? And the weight gain in pregnancy! I'm so frustrated by all the articles that say I'm not suppose to gain more than thirty pounds! I've always been a very fit person, worked out during my pregnancy...and at thirty two weeks I'm FORTY extra pound (and counting). While I'm looking forward to meeting my baby boy, I feel like a total bitch for thinking this whole experience has been grossly overrated.


My biggest issue is that not one single person told me that I would feel this completely soulless. I feel as if I've lost my SELF, who *I* am, in this process. I am the food provider, grocery shopper, house cleaner, dog feeder, dog walker, cook, maid, laundry queen, garden pro,and the list goes on. I went from working full time to staying at home full time and it's driving me crazy. My brain has turned to mush, I no longer contribute anything relevant to society (at least that's how I feel on the average day). Yes, it's wonderful to watch my (now) 9 month old son progress, it's neat to see him figure stuff out for the first time, it's sweet his little hugs and his darling smiles, the moments that take your heart, but....where am I? I'm sure the militant SAHMs would condemn me for saying something like that. But, the truth is, I feel like I have ceased to exist. There's just "mommy" who talks in third person about herself, "mommy" who wipes messy mouths and does the same dishes and picks up the same piles of dirty laundry and random detritus spread from the front door to the bedroom. I really wish someone had told me about feeling like this. It wouldn't have changed my mind, but at least I could have mentally prepared a bit. I could have steeled myself for it somehow perhaps. And the crazy thing?! I have yet to find another stupid blog or post or inane mommy site that remotely relates to these feelings. It's all glorious talk about how wonderful it is to be a parent, how rosy life is. I feel like I'm in the midst of a 1950s sitcom, all the women must take Valium or some other glorious sedative that makes it all just seem peaches and sunshine!!! Yeeeesh!!!! I'd like to hear some reality from women from time to time. But that's just my two cents.


i am only 10 wks pg and i have thankfully restarted my antidepressants, but i still can't help but think that i have made a hugh mistake. i was prepared for a long journey of ttc, not immediately pregnant. and i am so sick, and gaining weight, and looking horrible, I am scared that i won't ever get excited about this pgcy, and that i won't love the baby or want to be a mommy. I am so scared i have made the wrong decision,and my husband is getting upset that i am not happy like i am supposed to be. I told him this will be the only one, I will never do this to myself again i have been so horribly sick, and acne, and greasy thin hair, I look and feel like death warmed over. I too feel like everyone else must be on some kinda high, b/c my pregnancy sure isn't wonderful so far. It's not even good, I got so depressed after 7 wks off my meds, that I was seriously depressed and having horrible thoughts, and now evem back on them I still feel iunsure about being pg. I am hoping that if I get to feeling better that I can be more happy about this (i was fine the first 6 or 7 wks). I don't want to not want my baby or be disconnected.


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