Must-Read Instagram Post Highlights the Difficulties of New Motherhood

Motherhood is beautiful and rewarding—but it's also incredibly tough. Actress Laura Benanti got real about that fact in a must-read Instagram post.

One aspect of motherhood few moms feel comfortable discussing? How incredibly hard the role can be. There's so much pressure on new mothers, and often they feel like not loving every second of the experience means they're doing something wrong. But the truth is, motherhood—especially early motherhood—can be intensely difficult. Admitting that can only help fellow mothers realize that feeling the weight of it doesn't mean they're failing.

That's why Laura Benanti's recent Instagram post is worthy of discussion. The actress opened up about the difficult aspects of new motherhood, and while she kept the focus on her own experience, so much of what she said is completely universal.

Being a new mom can be hard. Or at least it can be for me. Maybe there are new moms out there who sail blissfully through the days, cherishing each little moment, utterly confident in their new mom-ness. But for me, sometimes it's really hard. Hard because I doubt myself. Hard because I'm tired. Hard because when I'm tired it's challenging to honor my own intuition. Hard because the outside voices of (mostly) well meaning advisors can overwhelm and confuse me. Hard because I'm lonely. Hard because my hormones are bananas. Just. Hard. And then tonight, while feeding my daughter--with a bottle--something that continues to be a source of deep sadness and a never ending quest to find a solution--I had a brief moment of clarity. This time, while seemingly interminable in moments, is actually flying by. She will never be this small again. I can either spend these days judging myself, and wishing for things to "get easier" or I can try to take it moment by moment. I hope to always remember tonight. How she looked up at me while I was feeding her and smiled. How she fell asleep on my shoulder. How my doubt and worry was momentarily quieted by my deep love for her, and how--at least for a moment--I let that love extend to myself.

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"Being a new mom can be hard. Or at least it can be for me. Maybe there are new moms out there who sail blissfully through the days, cherishing each little moment, utterly confident in their new mom-ness. But for me, sometimes it's really hard," the actress wrote. "Hard because I doubt myself. Hard because I'm tired. Hard because when I'm tired it's challenging to honor my own intuition. Hard because the outside voices of (mostly) well meaning advisors can overwhelm and confuse me. Hard because I'm lonely. Hard because my hormones are bananas. Just. Hard." 

Laura, who gave birth to Ella Rose Benanti-Brown in February, touched upon what so many other women experience: The feeling that this thing everyone makes out to be perfect and magical is actually way more difficult than anyone could have anticipated. We believe that when other moms see posts like this, they'll realize that there's no parent in the world who isn't challenged by the experience. And that's valuable. 

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