A couple in Queens, N.Y., started a poll on the Internet to help settle their debate over baby names. We ask: Is this any way to make such an important decision?
If there's one thing all parents (and parents-to-be) know, it's that The Great Baby Names debate is one of the most intense arguments you'll have with your partner. Forget how much to spend on the wedding or how much money to budget towards essentials every month, the pressure is on for filling out that birth certificate for your newborn.
For one couple in Queens, N.Y., the baby names decision was too much to handle on their own, so they're leaving it up to the Internet. Nicholas and Ksenlya Soukeras come from different heritages—Greek and Russian, respectively—and while he wants to name their son Spyridon (after his father), she prefers something more traditional, Michael.
They've started a petition on iPetitions.com, setting a bet at 100,000 votes. Why that number? Because that's the population of the mom's hometown, Maladzyechna in Russia. She's hoping the name Michael wins the wager, considering she claims she can't pronounce her own baby's name if Spyridon wins. Her hubby blames her Russian ear for not being attuned to the Greek nomenclature. (We're all for traditions, but we're kind of with mom here—if she can't say her own child's name, that's a problem.)
Voters from all over the world are weighing in on the debate, with one person named "Spiridon" who thinks Dad is in the right: "I love my name, which was my grandfather's name. Your child will ultimately appreciate the history and the reason behind the name." Others support Mom: "Honor your wife's family heritage by giving your child a first name after her family. Otherwise, you simply appear to be an egomaniac jerk who thinks only his family's heritage."
In case you forgot, the Internet has some pretty strong opinions.
But regardless of which one is winning (Michael's in the lead as we post this), Jennifer Moss from BabyNames.com says this whole online poll is a bad idea. "You need to consider the audience. If you want to get a 'general' opinion, I'd recommend they go to a naming or pregnancy community, where there are members who are serious about taking your dilemma into consideration, or target your friends and family on Facebook," she says. Her expert advice is to come up with something apart from the two choices, and if they're sold on Spyridon, make it a middle name or think of a derivative of the name using some of its same elements, like Donovan or Spencer. "We also recommend that families do not name children after their parents, period. Each member of the household should have his/her own name and identity."
The verdict will still be out until August, when the baby is due. However, if it's a girl, these votes don't matter: the mama gets to pick the name, according to the rules laid on the page. Because THAT makes total sense, just like a petition to let the internet name your baby.