Have the Post-Baby-Body Blues? Read This Fit Mom's Message

Personal trainer Revie Jane Schulz gets real about bouncing back. 

Trying to lose baby weight sucks. Especially when we live in a day and age where celebs and reality stars and all those fit moms on social media seem to bounce back and slide into their booty shorts pretty much overnight.


At first glance, you'd think personal trainer Revie Jane Schulz was one of them. It's been just nine weeks since she gave birth to daughter Lexington, and she's already posting midriff-baring shots of herself doing handstands on Instagram.


But if you scroll through her feed to a post from three weeks ago, you'll find a pretty revealing message about body image.


"It's been 6 weeks since I had my little Lexington and without contest, it has been my biggest blessing in life," Schulz wrote, adding that while being a parent is her greatest accomplishment, there are other sides to becoming a mother she wants to bring to light.


"I've found myself several times looking down at my belly," she explained. "I caught myself feeling sad when clutching the loose skin that was once tight, unmarked and toned. I tried to embrace and remind myself what it was all for but am left feeling so self-conscious."


It's been 6 weeks since I had my little Lexington and without contest, it has been my biggest blessing in life. Being her mother is and will be my greatest accomplishment. I post on the daily about how much I adore her and how happy I am, but there are other sides to becoming a mother that I think are really important to speak out about. I’ve found myself several times looking down at my belly. I caught myself feeling sad when clutching the loose skin that was once tight, unmarked and toned. I tried to embrace and remind myself what it was all for but am left feeling so self conscious. I kept telling myself “you knew it wouldn’t be back to normal straight away, give it time,” but it was still a shock and I do get upset about it. And that is perfectly okay. Being in my profession, I used to live in a sports bras and shorts, I wondered ‘Will I ever have the confidence to do that again? I was confused because I felt like I was being ungrateful and vein. But how is suppressing feelings of sadness and insecurity going to work out for me? Trying to undermine those feelings can cause big problems in the future. When speaking to other Mum friends about it, they agreed that they felt like they were the only ones because its not often talked about. So, yes I have never been happier and yes I have a healthy, beautiful baby but that shouldn't mean I bottle up these feelings. I can honestly say, each week, it does get better. I remember thinking ‘Is this forever?’ I have seen so many changes already and am starting to feel content again! Will my body ever be the same? No it probably won’t be and I’ve learnt it will be better in other ways. If you have been following me, you would know I am totally in a love fest over my darling girl, but we gotta look after ourselves too. We’ve all made our sacrifices and each of us are entitled to feel. The best bit of advice. Look. Look at what you created! At any moment, I look at Lexi and happiness washes over me. My body is amazing. So is yours xo For my top tips on positive body image post bub I posted them on my Facebook Page (link in bio) x #postpartumbody #bodyimage

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As a trainer and cross fit babe, Schulz is used to living in sports bras and shorts. "I wondered, 'Will I ever have the confidence to do that again?'" she wrote. "I was confused because I felt like I was being ungrateful and vein (sic). But how is suppressing feelings of sadness and insecurity going to work out for me? Trying to undermine those feelings can cause big problems in the future. When speaking to other Mum friends about it, they agreed that they felt like they were the only ones because it's not often talked about."


She's so right! As women, we get so much positive reinforcement about our growing bodies when we're expecting. But then the minute the baby pops out, all the glowing feedback shifts to the little one, while we're just left standing around feeling self-conscious in our not-quite-ready-for-non-maternity-clothes bodies.


The bottom line? It gets better. And while you may not ever "bounce back" to exactly where you were before, you will return to a place of happy—something Schultz already seems to understand.


"Will my body ever be the same?" she wrote. "No, it probably won't be and I've learned it will be better in other ways. The best bit of advice: Look. Look at what you created! At any moment, I look at Lexi and happiness washes over me. My body is amazing. So is yours xo."


Amen!

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