The singer made an incredibly brave, important confession about her struggle with postpartum depression, and so many new moms will relate.
There are so many issues surrounding parenthood and pregnancy that few people are willing to discuss, and postpartum depression is undoubtedly one of them. The good news? This is changing, with celebrities like Hayden Panettiere and Drew Barrymore leading the conversation about something that affects so many new mothers. Now, Adele has come forward to lend her own voice to the discussion.
The singer opened up about how postpartum depression affected her in her earliest days of motherhood—and while the statements she made may not make sense to someone who has no experience with the issue, they'll probably resonate loud and clear with other women who have been in the same position.
“I had really bad postpartum depression after I had my son, and it frightened me,” Adele told Vanity Fair. “My knowledge of postpartum — or post-natal, as we call it in England — is that you don’t want to be with your child; you’re worried you might hurt your child; you’re worried you weren’t doing a good job. But I was obsessed with my child. I felt very inadequate; I felt like I’d made the worst decision of my life.”
Postpartum depression can manifest itself in so many different ways—but so many of its sufferers will understand the fear and self-loathing that can characterize the experience. The value of community can't be ignored, and Adele sought out support from other women who could relate to her feelings.
“My boyfriend said I should talk to other women who were pregnant, and I said, ‘F— that, I ain’t hanging around with a f—in’ bunch of mothers. Then, without realizing it, I was gravitating towards pregnant women and other women with children, because I found they’re a bit more patient. You’ll be talking to someone, but you’re not really listening, because you’re so f—in’ tired," Adele said during her Vanity Fair interview. “My friends who didn’t have kids would get annoyed with me, whereas I knew I could just sit there and chat absolute mush with my friends who had children, and we wouldn’t judge each other,” she says. “One day I said to a friend, ‘I f—in’ hate this,’ and she just burst into tears and said, ‘I f—in’ hate this, too.’ And it was done. It lifted.”