Alyssa Milano's Advice to New Moms? 'Be Kind to Yourself'

The 43-year-old actress got really real about her C-section scar and how tough motherhood can be—and lamented how rarely those difficulties are discussed.

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We'd expect nothing else from Alyssa Milano, arguably the most vocal public advocate in the movement to #NormalizeBreastfeeding. Once again, Alyssa spoke up about the physical realities of motherhood and we love how real she got.

Alyssa came clean about so many of the things new moms rarely discuss: C-section scars; society's expectation that women quickly drop their baby weight; and the pressure mothers put on themselves. “Be kind to yourself,” the actress told Today. “And...remember what your body is put on this earth to do, which is nurture, feed, take care of a child. Everything else is sort of irrelevant.”

It's no secret that for most women, baby weight doesn't just melt off, contrary to what the celebrities of the world might project. Alyssa tackled this subject as well: “I do believe that the weight does come off in the right time. I really do. When I gave birth both times, I didn’t rush myself to lose the weight, but eventually it did come off. Sometimes it’s hard work, but to me, it took such a backseat to being a new mother and what that meant and how special and physically demanding that was alone.”

Alyssa is so at peace with her post-body—not just its shape, but also the marks that tell her story. “I love my C-section scar, because it’s where my babies came from,” she admitted.

This body-positive philosophy is nothing new for Alyssa: The actress appeared on Fit Pregnancy's August/September 2014 cover and her views on the female body were just as evolved back then. "I was very kind to myself," she said of her pregnancy. "A female body is not made to look good in a bikini. It's made to give birth and have a baby and be a cozy companion for it afterwards. And for my body, that meant putting on a lot of weight. I didn't indulge in fast food or junk food, so I knew it was healthy weight. I just realized: This is what my body needs to do to have a healthy baby."