Why? Well, because it's none of your business.
While we are huge advocates of breastfeeding, we also know that it's simply not the right choice for some mothers and their children—and moms who formula feed don't deserve to be shamed for their circumstances.
Haylie Duff knows this all too well. The actress and mother has one parenting pet peeve: She hates being asked whether or not she's breastfeeding her daughter. And honestly? She has a point. While breastfeeding definitely has some incredible benefits and is an act that deserves way more appreciation, the way a mother feeds her child is an intensely personal matter. There are clearly a lot of breastfeeding shamers out there—but as Haylie points out, there are also a lot of people who are quick to judge women who don't nurse their babies.
Duff opened up to Us Weekly about her own experience with baby feeding: She nursed her 15-month-old daughter, Ryan, for about seven months...and then Duff got food poisoning, which depleted her milk supply.
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“That was awful. It was really hard for me. I finally gave her a bottle of [formua]…and there was no turning back. You shouldn’t be ashamed to formula feed," Duff, who is engaged to entrepreneur Matt Rosenberg, told Us Weekly. “Moms do so much comparing. This one has a gluten-free kid and that one doesn’t. This one has a nanny and that one doesn’t. Everybody needs to lighten up. We’re all doing our best.”
Let's not forget that groups like UNICEF and the American Academy of Pediatrics recommend breastfeeding babies exclusively until they're six months old—if Duff nursed her baby for seven months, her course of action was right in line with those guidelines. And even if she didn't, you really can't know what another mom is up against until you walk a mile in her shoes—so why weigh in on how she's raising her family?
While we can't deny the amazing nature of breastmilk, we have to stand with this mom on this particular issue. There's no need to ask a woman if she's breastfeeding or comment on her choice. Ultimately, we all just have to do what works best for our own children.