The actress opened up about the way her social circle changed during her pregnancy—and honestly? This is something that happens to a lot of women.
Hayden Panettiere brought postpartum depression into the conversation surrounding early motherhood in a way no other star has—and now, the young mother is illuminating another important parenting issue that few people dare to discuss.
The actress recently opened up about the way her life changed when she got pregnant—and how these lifestyle changes affected her friendships. It's a shift so many women will probably relate to: Maybe you spent years meeting girlfriends for cocktails or fun nights out, only to realize that these same friends weren't down to see you once you got pregnant and couldn't down drinks on Saturday nights. Maybe you found it difficult to relate to the people around you once your priorities shifted towards motherhood. Maybe you simply didn't have the energy or will to see people while you navigated the sheer exhaustion and hormonal haze that comes with pregnancy. Whatever the case may be, pregnancy can certainly affect your social life in unexpected ways, and Hayden (who welcomed her daughter, Kaya, with fiancé Wladimir Klitschko) opened up about how it changed hers.
"I was 22, not a mom [yet] and had no one to answer to but myself," Hayden told Parade of moving to Nashville to shoot the show of the same name. "My life was all about having fun, exploring myself and meeting new people. It was filled with late nights, great music, and figuring out where I fit in here in Nashville. Then I went through a pregnancy and I found out who my true friends were—the ones that were going to stick around and support me. I’ll just say the outcome was slim pickins!"
Does what she's saying resonate with you? Ultimately, we're all on our own timelines, and it can be tough when one friend is ready for motherhood while the other isn't. The isolation and demands that come with new motherhood may encourage you to seek out the company of other parents who get what you're going through. It's natural for your social circle to undergo some changes, and for you to lose a few friends. On the plus side, it can also strengthen the existing bonds you have with others—and those friends are the ones who eventually take on major roles in your children's lives.
Eventually, you find the friends you need—at least Hayden did. "My life became all about staying healthy, getting good sleep, finding parks and nature," she told Parade. "Now I’m the mother of a 2-year-old, I’ve found my pack of solid, loyal, lifelong friends here and am settled into a beautiful routine. My life and who I am have simply evolved in a beautiful way."