Jaime King on Fertility Struggle: "I Felt Broken"

EXCLUSIVE: Actress and model Jaime King opens up to Fit Pregnancy about her fertility struggles, new pregnancy and why, as a pregnant women, she hates wearing heels.

Jaime King on Fertility Struggle: "I Felt Broken" Mike Coppola/Getty Images

Actress, filmmaker, and designer Jaime King is not one to be coy about motherhood and the struggles she went through to get there. After giving birth to her first son James Knight in 2013, King opened up about her polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), endometriosis and five miscarriages that meant she struggled for 7 years before finally becoming pregnant.

Now the 36-year-old Hart of Dixie star and her husband Kyle Newman are expecting again, with plans for King's best friend Taylor Swift to be the baby's godmother.

Fit Pregnancy caught up with her as she hosted the New York City launch of Plenti, a new loyalty program from American Express, to talk pregnancy, fertility and why you'll rarely see her in heels.

FIT PREGNANCY: Befor the recent Met Gala, you Instagrammed your woes about wearing heels. I see you're wearing flats this time.

JAIME KING: I can't do heels. I've done heels three times since I've been pregnant. I'm just really not a big advocate of it. It's so unsafe when you're pregnant. It's horrific for your body and it throws off your posture. When you're pregnant your body produces relaxin, which is a hormone that affects your balance and you're so much more prone to injury. I'm just not one of those ladies who feels comfortable risking it.

FP: How does this pregnancy compare to the last one?

JK: It's different in the sense that the last one I was working [on Hart of Dixie] until the day before I gave birth and had to go back after six weeks, so I think there was a lot more pressure. With this one, it's just been really beautiful because I'm able to spend time with my son and really bond with him. If I'm tired I can actually lay down and not have to be standing and moving and acting. But at the same time shooting was really great because it was a distraction, which is needed when you're pregnant.

FP: Have you had any cravings?

JK: Not really. I'm not really a big cravings person. I just know what I like and what I don't like. It's very specific: I don't like anything that's really oily or buttery, but I really love olives a lot. Like in my last pregnancy, I really love cheeses. I really love malts.

FP: Having been pregnant before, do you have any tips for moms-to-be?

JK: Be gentle with yourself. Love yourself. Don't subscribe to mommy bullying. Don't think that you have to do something a certain way because other mothers or friends or people are telling you that that's the right way or the wrong way. It's really scary when you're first pregnant, if it's your first pregnancy, because you don't know what you want to do or how you're going to go about it. And basically every plan that you make, get ready to throw it out the window. That's the best advice that I can give.

FP: As someone who's vocal about your own struggles with fertility, what advice would you give women having a tough time conceiving?

JK: It's interesting because nobody really talks about endometriosis or PCOS, but so many women struggle with it. I have to thank Lena Dunham as being a big champion for me. She also has [endometriosis]. I used to feel like I was the only one who had it. Nobody knew how long it took me to get pregnant: that for seven years I had so many losses, I'd been trying for so long and I was in so much pain. I felt like a part of me was broken because the fact is let's be real: the only difference between men and women that we grow up with is that we're able to carry a child. Somewhere in our subconscious when someone tells you, "Oh, you might not be able to do that", you feel like it's the one thing that you have that's this gift, that makes you a woman, and there's something wrong with you.

The truth is, it takes an average couple a year and a half to get pregnant. The truth is that over 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. These are things people don't want to talk about but it's a fact and I feel like it's detrimental for me as a woman to not be honest about that and that it's detrimental that women don't talk about these things because when you go through it you feel like you're suffering in silence by yourself. When I actually started talking about it, I knew it wasn't sexy. I didn't want to go on the cover of People magazine and talk about these kinds of things in Hollywood where you're supposed to be beautiful and perfect and this sort of goddess type. But I knew that the greater good was to let other women know that this is a thing that's out there and these are the symptoms and if you have it, you're not by yourself. It takes someone with a voice to say that. So many women and so many husbands have stopped me on the street crying, at restaurants it's changed my life.

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