Country star Jessie James Decker wants women to see that she hasn't lost all her baby weight, but her flaws are most women's fantasies. So what does 'perfect' mean?
Ever see a photo of a new celebrity mama just a few months—heck, even a few weeks—after she's given birth, and wonder why her stomach is suddenly flat again, while you still looked like you were six months pregnant at that stage? Yeah, us, too.
The latest example: Jessie James Decker, the country singer—and major beauty—who gave birth to her baby boy, Eric, on Sept. 4 (big sis Vivianne is 18 months). James Decker has been drawing a lot of praise for her Instagram posts of late—including a breastfeeding selfie posted a week ago ("Love being a mommy and feeding my sweet boy," she wrote) and a date night selfie in which she looks positively tiny in her leather pants and white blazer.
But after a slew of Instagrammers commented on just how thin she looked so soon after having a baby, James Decker posted another selfie—this time in sweatpants and showing her bare midriff—in an attempt to show that she doesn't have a perfect body.
"I don't want to mislead any mommy's [sic] who just had babies and are stressing!" the wife of NFL player Eric Decker writes. "I gained 55 pounds with my daughter and only 27 this time! I gained so much with her because I threw up every day for five months and of course was starving after so I would shove anything in my mouth to make that hunger feeling go away."
She continues that she's still 15 pounds away from her weight pre-Vivianne.
"I take occasional walks but haven't done anything yet to try and lose weight and am in no rush!" James Decker writes. "Nursing mamas should def not try and do any severe diets or milk supply will run low! My tummy is still swollen and you can see my c-section scar and pooch! ... Wanted to make sure y'all saw what my tummy looks like under the tank top and blazer...I do wear a belly waist train thingy a few hours here n there which helps c section mamas and swelling to go down... Being a mommy is so rewarding but hard work so we need to stick together and help each other out. I'm not perfect but I do my best. That's what it's all about. So never be hard on yourself. I'm going to try and do more posts like this."
See, the thing is, that while James Decker's attempt at "getting real" is a nice gesture, all we can think is, Wait, if that's a body that's still 15 pounds overweight and imperfect just six weeks post-giving birth, what hope is there for the rest of us? If that's the imperfect after, we shudder to think of how our before shots would compare!
So, yes, while we appreciate the sentiment of well-meaning celebrities telling women not to be so hard on themselves or to stop stressing out about weight loss or to stick together, and we love all bodies, of all shapes and sizes, selfies like this also remind us that not everyone will look the same postpartum. And that's a good thing.
So go ahead and keep sharing those posts, Jessie, we'll try hard not to compare ourselves too closely.