She might play a successful doctor on TV, but with a toddler at home and another baby on the way, Sarah Drew's day-to-day life is pretty (Mc)dreamy too.
Sarah Drew: Behind the Scenes
It's a rare overcast, drizzly day in Los Angeles, but at her Fit Pregnancy photo shoot in a house on a winding street near the Hollywood Hills, Sarah Drew is pure sunshine. This could be because the Grey's Anatomy star is bursting with joy over her ever-expanding belly. But you get the impression she's never hard to be around: Due with her second in December, Drew seems like the friend you text when your baby spits up on the new couch, and the one who brings over wine when said baby has finally gone down. Drew, 33, charms the crew with her low-maintenance M.O., waving away the hairstylist's request for direction with, "Just make me look better than how I came in." She cracks up the team with tales of her toughest mommy moments (most recently, the epic meltdown her 2-year-old son, Micah, had at a museum), her incessant cravings and Grey's creator Shonda Rhimes' clairvoyance: "She wrote the pregnancy into the show before I was even pregnant. Shonda knows everything!" In fact, once the shoot has wrapped, the clouds have disappeared—for Drew, it's nothing but blue skies.
FIT PREGNANCY: You're halfway there! How are you feeling these days?
SARAH DREW: I'm feeling great. I am in the happy place. I was sick at exactly the same time as my first pregnancy: from 6 weeks to 16 weeks. I'm at 19 weeks now. So, I've been out of the woods for a couple weeks and feeling much better.
FP: So, compared to your first pregnancy, it's very similar?
FP: That's the worst. I remember with my first, I'd walk into this deli by my house, catch the scent of something and have to run out so I didn't vomit.
SD: I still get nauseous if I'm hungry. I'm like an infant right now. I have to eat every two hours or I get crabby.
FP: Are you craving anything weird?
SD: I'm craving sweets, so we just don't keep them in the house. When I'm around them, I turn into a monster. I can't stop myself! But I'll have a square or two of chocolate after dinner, and that will satisfy me.
FP: You're pregnant—you're allowed!
SD: Also, I end up going on outings. We have a Baskin-Robbins near the house, and sometimes, I need a peanut butter fudge sundae immediately. There's no question about that. But then I'd feel so disgusting and sick afterward. So now I do a kid-sized one—I don't feel like dying after it.
FP: I know what to bring you next time I interview you! How are you sleeping?
SD: The pee situation is way worse this time. Last time, the waking up constantly was only in the last month, but now it's five times a night. But it's OK. I'm good at falling back to sleep. And I have this pregnancy pillow that I love—it's a little wedge that holds my belly up when I sleep on my side.
FP: Yeah, I love that. I got one that was the size of a person, and I slept with it for about two years. My husband was finally like, no.
SD: Right, like, "Can we get the third person out of our bed?" I love my cushion so much, though. I am like a hot box. So I can't sleep holding my husband, because he then gets disgustingly sweaty from me. So we don't sleep entwined, but—
FP: Do people who've been married for a while sleep entwined anyway?
SD: No! It's just not comfortable. You have your cuddle time, and then you're done.
FP: Exactly. Not all women love being pregnant, but I've read that you do. True the second time around, too?
SD: (Laughs) Did I ever say that?
FP: I thought so ...
SD: No, I do not. Though this time around, I'm enjoying it a lot more. The first time it wasn't just the physicality, it was the emotional weight, too. I was mourning the end of a massive chapter in my life. I know that sounds weird.
FP: I think a lot of women feel that way, actually.
SD: I didn't know what it was going to be like; I knew I'd have to sacrifice a lot more than I was used to sacrificing, but I didn't know how it was going to look and I didn't know if I was going to be a good mom. So, emotionally, I was a basket case and I had a lot of fear. This time around it's been really delightful, because I have the example in front of me of what happens when the child comes out. And yeah, it's changed my life, but I'm really happy with the way things have changed. Your desires and the things that you love shift. You grow and adjust.
FP: And there's no way that anybody can prepare you for the empathy and love and patience, and all of that. There's just no way.
SD: Absolutely. The emergence of a child opens up this well of love that you just never knew you were able to have. And it's empowering. You discover: Oh, I can do this. I can do this thing.
FP: And has it shifted your marriage?
SD: Yeah. It brings out a side of my husband, Peter [a professor at UCLA] that I just love so much because it's his ridiculous, silly, playful side. We laugh so much more in our house because our son is hilarious, and we're having so much fun with him. Also, I've fallen more in love with my husband because he is such an incredible partner and father. I respect and admire him in a new way.
FP: You guys decided not to find out whether you're having a boy or girl this time around. Was this a joint decision?
SD: We didn't find out with Micah either, but if it were up to me, we would have. My husband convinced me not to.
FP: The one who doesn't want to find out always wins.
SD: Yes. Always. For him, it was more about: There are so few huge surprises in life, so why not? And for me, I thought I wanted a girl, and if I had found out that it was a boy before I'd met him—while he was still theoretical and inside of me—I could've been disappointed. But that's just impossible when he's placed on your belly. It doesn't matter what the sex is! You're just in love, and that's how it is.
FP: Totally! And little boys just love their mamas.
SD: Since I've been pregnant, Micah has been in a clingy mommy phase. This morning, I left the house with him in a full-blown stomping, screaming tantrum: "Mommy, stay here!"
FP: How do you deal when he's freaking out like that?
SD: We're doing time-outs, talking to him and repeating back the emotion that he's experiencing to validate it. I took him on a cross-country trip a few weeks ago, and he had a rough time in the new environment. We were rushing through lunch at the American Museum of Natural History in New York City, and he had the most horrific tantrum in the middle of the cafeteria. There were so many people around! I finally whisked him out and sat him down, looked in his eyes and said, "You cannot behave this way in public."
FP: Does Micah know that he's getting a sibling?
SD: He does, and he is adamant that it's a sister. He has named her Moses.
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