Should Moms Feel 'Empowered' When They Lose Baby Weight?

Ciara shared that she lost her 60 pounds of pregnancy weight in just four months, calling the move "empowering." But there are plenty of ways to feel empowered as a mom.

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Ciara knows a thing or two about losing baby weight fast: The singer shed the 60 pounds she gained while carrying her son, Future Zahir, in just four months. That's definitely impressive—not because of the number on the scale, but because paying attention to your health and fitness while you're raising a newborn is hard. It's pretty commendable that Ciara managed to shed that weight the healthy way while juggling parenthood and a career—but is it empowering? According to the singer, for her it is.

Ciara opened up to PEOPLE about getting her body back after baby. “I think when it comes to your body, it’s all about the goals you set for yourself,” she said. “After delivering my son, a 9 pound, 10 ounce baby, and gaining 60 pounds, I was committed to [returning] to how I felt before I had him. Four months after having him, I was back to my original shape. There’s something very empowering about that. Something about that gave me an extra pep in my step, and motivated me even more to go harder.”

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Ciara has personal reasons for feeling so empowered by her amazing physique—she admitted that she was 20 pounds heavier before she came into the public eye, and pointed out that show business demands its performers stay in shape no matter what.

We see what Ciara is saying—it's only natural to feel a sense of accomplishment any time you meet a goal you've set for yourself, and we definitely understand how motivating results can be. Having said that, we also feel like there are so many ways to find empowerment as mothers. Giving birth is empowering. Breastfeeding is empowering. Looking at your stomach and seeing excess skin, stretch marks and flab that wasn't there before can be empowering, too—it's proof of what your body has been through.

Losing baby weight is such a complicated thing. On the one hand, it's completely natural to feel proud, victorious and yes, even empowered when you finally reach your goal—but we don't believe it's something you need to accomplish or even think about right away.

Are we faulting Ciara for dropping her weight so quickly? Not at all—as long as she did it the healthy way, we say good for her. But if you're six months, a year, two years out and still aren't there, you need to keep in mind that she probably had access to the best help money can buy to get her to her goal: pricey childcare, top-notch trainers, and nutrition experts. Investing in your own health after baby is so important—but it's certainly easier for celebrities than it is for the rest of us.

The good news? Us "regular people" don't have the same pressures that famous moms face where weight loss is concerned. So maybe we don't find our maternal empowerment by dropping baby weight really fast, but let's not forget that there are so, so many ways to feel empowered after you become a mom. Find yours, stay healthy and enjoy your time with your children. When it's all said and done, nothing else really matters.