Tess Holliday Gets Really Real About the Working Mom Struggle

The model penned an incredibly honest social media post about the emotional toll working motherhood can take on a person.

If you're a working mom, chances you're in a perpetually overwhelmed state. You probably grin and bear it for the most part, but once in a while that mounting pressure can wear you down, as every overworked mom can attest. 

Just ask Tess Holliday. The plus-size model mama posted a raw (and totally relatable) photo of herself crying along with a caption detailing how hard her life as a working mom can be.

"I've been up since 3 am, & every time I get [my son] Bowie to sleep & try to lay him down, he wakes up," Tess wrote in the caption field of her photo. "He is teething & has no clue I have to work today, & most days I can work 15 hour days, take care of both boys & put some lipstick on & deal with it. Most days I drink my coffee & smile at every little thing he does thinking it's the best thing in the world, but not today. I've been crying for nearly two hours, & I'm crying as I write this. I've reached my limit."

This is the reality of being a mom. I've been up since 3 am, & every time I get Bowie to sleep & try to lay him down, he wakes up. He is teething & has no clue I have to work today, & most days I can work 15 hour days, take care of both boys & put some lipstick on & deal with it. Most days I drink my coffee & smile at every little thing he does thinking it's the best thing in the world, but not today. I've been crying for nearly two hours, & I'm crying as I write this. I've reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest. My confidence has taken a blow with this birth & it wasn't until this morning I realized why. The pressure of "looking good" for a living is too much today. When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding + total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin & to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed.. how do you do it? How do you feel confident in your skin & feel like you aren't letting the client down by showing up exhausted & disheveled? Yes, I chose a career based on my looks & I'm the first one to say that beauty isn't what should drive you, it's certainly not what motivates me. As a working mom in an industry that's as critical as mine, where is the line? The balance? The compassion? Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10% because your kids wouldn't let you sleep & you want to hide under your covers & cry? Not many. I hope one day that changes & society views mothers as the flawed human beings we are that are just trying to keep our shit together like everyone else. #effyourbeautystandards #workingmoms #disruptperfectmomsyndrome

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Sleep deprivation is to be expected when you're a new mom, but sometimes the sheer magnitude of it can knock you off your feet. Add in the fact that when you're raising children, every bad thing seems to happen all at once...and, well, you have an idea of how tough it all can feel sometimes.

Tess went on to expand upon how motherhood has affected her confidence. "The pressure of 'looking good' for a living is too much today," she wrote. "When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding + total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin & to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed.. how do you do it? How do you feel confident in your skin & feel like you aren't letting the client down by showing up exhausted & disheveled?"

While most of us don't have jobs that require us to look a certain way, this is something we can relate to: Whether you're self-conscious about your postpartum body or are feeling thrown off by the rapid hair loss you're experiencing after delivery, it can be so hard to look in the mirror and barely recognize yourself. But Tess's post is a reminder that all we can do is get through the lows so we can relish the highs. So if you're exhausted, emotional, overwhelmed an struggling to keep up, know that you are so not alone.

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