Her advice for new moms? “Just be kind to yourself.”
Bonding with your baby and taking time for yourself — even if it’s simply to brush your teeth or take a long bath — are the only things new moms should be worried about, says Liv Tyler. The actress, who welcomed her third child, daughter Lula Rose, a month ago just shared this refreshingly un-Hollywood philosophy on post-pregnancy life with PEOPLE —and her attitude is one we could all learn from.
It can’t be easy to exist in an industry that glorifies women whose post-baby bodies “bounce back” in record time without feeling some pressure to look a certain way, but Liv manages to do it. How? She understands that some women simply have an easier time snapping back to pre-baby form than others, and that comparing one woman’s postnatal body to another’s is senseless.
“Some people’s body type is that they totally look normal right after [birth], and [for] others, it takes many months,” she told PEOPLE. “But I think it’s best to focus on your health and the health of your baby and bonding.”
Liv, who freely admits she has been living in “beautiful cotton or silk pajamas,” also is candid about the current state of her own body. “It’s that transitional period [where] I don’t think people can tell if you’re pregnant or you’re just chubby,” she says.
Her advice for new moms with post-baby body worries? “Just be kind to yourself,” she says. “Everyone is different. Everyone’s body is different, everyone’s birth experience is different.”
All new moms are incredibly busy, but Liv’s calendar is exceptionally full, which is why she would rather spend every minute she can with her new daughter than stress over losing baby weight. She recently launched a 12-piece fashion collection with Belstaff and will move to London and resume work on the set of “The Leftovers” soon. She’s also juggling her role as a mother to Sailor Gene (18 months) and Milo (11) along with her relationship with fiancé David Gardner and his 9-year-old son.
“In the early days, it’s so tricky to balance your time between taking care of your child and taking care of yourself so if you can have a little bit of help, it’s so nice,” she says of juggling all her responsibilities. “I think it’s important for women to be supportive of each other.”
Frankly, we're loving this recent trend of Hollywood women refusing to be body-shamed and encouraging the rest of us to be more forgiving about the realities of postpartum bodies. More, please!