Kelly Rowland Gets Real and Raw About Messed-Up Lady Parts After Baby

In her new book, Whoa Baby!, Kelly Rowland talks post-baby vajayjay health with her ob-gyn, including all sorts of vaginal fears and tears.

Kelly Rowland Whoa Baby Cover Art Courtesy Da Capo Press
Kelly Rowland was prepared for the widely disclosed trials of labor when she was pregnant. But there are some parts of the pregnancy/childbirth/new mama experience that came as a bit of a shock to the Destiny's Child singer and mom—and she's spilling those secrets in her just-released book, Whoa, Baby!

Just a hint of the honest mom-talk you can expect in its pages: "The excruciating pain every time I hobbled to the toilet, the HUGE floppy belly, and the days—make that weeks—of bleeding," she writes. "And I thought pushing Titan's head out was going to be the hardest part!"

Once she brought her little guy home, she started to wonder about some things going on downstairs. "Even as I was gazing for the first time at my gorgeous miracle of a son, I was beginning to feel a little concerned about how much my vajayjay hurt."

Rowland couldn't walk or sit without pain and couldn't imagine this was normal. So she consulted her ob-gyn, Dr. Tristan Emily Bickman (who also co-authored Whoa, Baby!), to see what was going on. And then there was its appearance: "Why was it all loose and floppy—would it always be like this?" Rowland laments in the book. "Was it ever going to be cute again?"

Bickman assured her it would be. When babies come out, the pressure on your vagina often results in rips or tears but it almost always will heal on its own, in time. But Rowland wasn't so sure. Why hadn't any of her mom-friends told her about this? She decided to investigate further.

"I made the mistake of getting out a mirror and trying to study the situation. Talk about the world's worst idea!" the star confesses. "That bloody battlefield was my vagina?"

Warzone aside, almost 95 percent of first-time moms experience vaginal tears. You just pushed a baby out of a very small opening, so of course it looks a little disturbing down there, Bickman says. But as tempting as it is, there's no need to put a mirror between your legs or take photos (would that be a velfie? Or a vajelfie?!).

"Put away the selfie stick," Rowland writes. "You're not doing anyone any favors with that cell-phone camera. Save it for snaps of your baby's adorable mug."

That's good advice for any preggo or new mom—from one who's been there. Thanks, Kelly!