Finally! A Mom Gets Praised—Not Shamed—for Breastfeeding in Public

This reaction to one mom's public breastfeeding is a striking contrast to what so many moms face when they nurse their babies—and we couldn't be happier to see this mama get the positive reinforcement she deserves.

A few days ago, Isabelle Ames was carrying out a routine most moms know all too well. She was trying to enjoy her coffee while simultaneously caring for her daughter (a mom problem if there ever was one!). And when her 10-month-old became hungry, the mom did what any breastfeeding mother would do: She began to feed her baby, despite the fact that they were out in a public place.

But while breastfeeding moms are subjected to shame, criticism and judgement every single day, Ames received something else for her act: appreciation. Her server at Snooze Eatery took the time to thank Ames and offer up support. The server even sent over a free pancake and wrote a sweet note expressing "love and respect" for the mother.

Ames posted a photo of the note on her Instagram page, along with a caption that describes why the server's gesture was so important to her.

I am still teary eyed writing this hours later. While at breakfast this morning I was doing my usual thing- trying to wrangle a very active ten month old while trying get at least one sip of my coffee. When Charlotte got hungry, I started breastfeeding her. It went okay, but lately it's been extra difficult. She has a total of 6 teeth now, and we have both been sick for a week. When she finished, my server came over and said, "this pancake is from me, to you. Here is a little note to explain why." She then began to tell me how "us mommas gotta look out for each other". Instant tears. I gave this incredibly sweet stranger a hug and cried again. For those of you who don't understand why this is meaningful, I will put it into perspective. Breastfeeding is one of the hardest things I have done, next to labor. No one prepares you for it, but everyone expects you to be excellent at it. You feel like a complete failure when it doesn't happen right away. For the first two weeks after Charlotte was born, I could only pump and cry because I was so broken-hearted that I couldn't get her to latch. Then for the next 4 weeks, I could only breastfeed with a nipple shield. It was better than pumping but still not the same. It was not until about 6 weeks after she was born that she latched for first time and I was able to successfully breastfeed. I cried tears of relief and ecstatic joy. Even at 10 months old, it is still hard some days, without even talking about breastfeeding. I haven't slept in days because she is sick. I am beyond exhausted. Yesterday I got so frustrated I screamed fifty curse words into a pillow. That's #momlife some days. But for a complete stranger to see me, and say "thank you". I felt like she was there on my journey the whole time, and she knew how many times I wanted to give up but I didn't. So often, before I feed Charlotte in public I get a twinge of fear. "Okay, this is the time. Someone is going to harass me. They are going to yell at me. Someone is going to tell me I can't do this here." But not today. Today I got love, respect and a free pancake. Thank you to my fellow momma, Erica ❤ #normalizebreastfeeding #lovewins

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"For those of you who don't understand why this is meaningful, I will put it into perspective," she wrote. "Breastfeeding is one of the hardest things I have done, next to labor. No one prepares you for it, but everyone expects you to be excellent at it. You feel like a complete failure when it doesn't happen right away. For the first two weeks after Charlotte was born, I could only pump and cry because I was so broken-hearted that I couldn't get her to latch. Then for the next 4 weeks, I could only breastfeed with a nipple shield. It was better than pumping but still not the same. It was not until about 6 weeks after she was born that she latched for first time and I was able to successfully breastfeed. I cried tears of relief and ecstatic joy. Even at 10 months old, it is still hard some days, without even talking about breastfeeding. I haven't slept in days because she is sick. I am beyond exhausted. Yesterday I got so frustrated I screamed fifty curse words into a pillow. That's #momlife some days."

This post is such a perfect reminder that sometimes simply hearing that she's doing a great job can make a world of difference for a mom. This is especially true for breastfeeding mothers—the act is physically challenging, and it's just so unfair that nursing moms often have to deal with societal pressures on top of all that. What Ames posted is undeniable proof that even the simplest gestures of support are incredibly meaningful to mothers who are grappling with the tougher parts of parenting.

Ames spoke to that concept in her post's caption as well.  "...For a complete stranger to see me, and say 'thank you'. I felt like she was there on my journey the whole time, and she knew how many times I wanted to give up but I didn't," she wrote. "So often, before I feed Charlotte in public I get a twinge of fear. 'Okay, this is the time. Someone is going to harass me. They are going to yell at me. Someone is going to tell me I can't do this here.' But not today. Today I got love, respect and a free pancake. Thank you to my fellow momma."

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