Mom Fires Back After Being Shamed For Breastfeeding by Her Own Parents

Another day, another story of a woman shamed for breastfeeding...only this time, the mom was shamed by her own parents.

Kelly Stanley was breastfeeding her nine-month-old daughter at a restaurant when something that is (sadly) all too common happened: Someone told her to cover her breasts. The only upside to this story? The fact that this mama stood up for herself and her rights in such an amazing way.

The mother posted an incredible photo of herself nursing her baby while assuming a challenging yoga pose. As impressive as the photo itself is, it's the caption that really got our attention. "[My baby] needed to nurse, so of course I pull my shirt down to feed and comfort her," Stanley wrote. "Some one at the dinner table then grabs one of those cloth napkins and tries to toss it over me. I asked him what he was doing, and he said he was trying to cover me...I went off on him and I'm glad I did. You know why? Because the gesture was humiliating. Because no woman should ever feel like she is being inappropriate or immodest by feeding her baby, anywhere, ever."

So. I was at dinner last night and, as always, had my baby with me. Maya (9 months) was getting irritable, and I knew what she needed. She needed to nurse, so of course I pull my shirt down to feed and comfort her. Some one at the dinner table then grabs one of those cloth napkins and tries to toss it over me. I asked him what he was doing, and he said he was trying to cover me. We were at Bonefish, and apparently that is too "nice" of a restaurant to nurse a baby uncovered. I wish I could say I was polite and respectful about the situation. Actually, I lied. I don't wish that. I stood up for my right to feed my child and I'm glad I did. You know why? Because the gesture was humiliating. Because no woman should ever feel like she is being inappropriate or immodest by feeding her baby, anywhere, ever. Breastfeeding is NOT indecent exposure. It's not inviting men to gawk at my breasts. EVEN IF GOD FORBID THE BABY UNLATCHES AND THEY SEE MY BARE NIPPLE. No, I'd rather not pull my shirt down in a public place or a nice restaurant. I'd rather people NOT see my stretch marked breast or scratched nipples. But you know what? We can't sit here and tout that breast is best and then have a fit about how inappropriate it is to feed a baby in public. You can't expect women to WANT to breastfeed and then shew them to the car when their baby gets hungry, or expect them to let the baby wail in hunger or need. Babies are notorious for wanting to eat (or comfort) at the most inconvenient and AWKWARD times. And most of them hate to be covered! Breastfeeding is a normal and natural thing, and if someone has a problem with me feeding my child whenever and wherever, that is THEIR problem. It should NEVER be the breastfeeding mom's problem. They continued to say that I needed to be considerate of those who might be offended (men who sexualize breastfeeding )and I'm over here thinking it's the men who should be considerate and not sexualize breastfeeding. We need to stop making excuses for men and start expecting them to act like mature human beings who are capable of being in control of themselves. Grrr don't poke the mom bear...... . . . leggings by @omgiyoga

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But here's where the story takes a surprising turn: According to Daily Mail, Stanley was at dinner with her own parents when this happened...and her father was the one who tossed a napkin at her and urged her to cover herself.

As if that weren't enough, Stanley posted yet another photo of herself breastfeeding in an equally impressive yoga pose—and according to her caption, it was a shot she had a posted before that had been deleted by Instagram. "This morning I woke up to find this post had been reported and somehow Instagram found a reason to delete it from my page," she wrote. "There are pages flooded with images of women in pasties (not that I have a problem with that, just pointing out the hypocrisy here) and no one bats an eye (or at least Instagram doesn't remove those pictures). However, the moment a woman shows an ounce of flesh (and not a speck of areola) while feeding her child, people start shouting to the heavens that she better cover up."

I find it really sad that our society finds the need to censor a woman feeding her child. This morning I woke up to find this post had been reported and somehow Instagram found a reason to delete it from my page. There are pages flooded with images of women in pasties (not that I have a problem with that, just pointing out the hypocrisy here) and no one bats an eye (or at least Instagram doesn't remove those pictures). However, the moment a woman shows an ounce of flesh (and not a speck of areola) while feeding her child, people start shouting to the heavens that she better cover up. Originally captioned, "Why are boobs only taboo when they are feeding a baby? Is it possibly because giving them a biological function discredits the objectification of them? 🤔"

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We've said it once and we'll say it again: There's really no need for anyone to ever shame a breastfeeding mama for taking care of her child. This woman's story is just further proof that, when it comes to supporting breastfeeding women, we still have a long way to go.

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