Mom Posts Bottle-Feeding Selfie, Says 'F-Off' to Mom Guilt

This mama had some WORDS for her mom guilt. 

Think breastfeeding mamas are the only ones who are routinely shamed when they feed their children in public? Think again. 

Australian blogging mama Siobhan Rennie recently posted an Instagram shot of herself feeding her baby with a bottle—but it wasn't just a sweet mother/daughter image. Rennie also shared a powerful message about mom guilt, mommy shamers and the intensely personal nature of choosing what works best for you and your family.

"I still feel guilty every day that I'm not breastfeeding [my baby] Aoife anymore. Because mum guilt is a HUGE BITCH. I had my reasons for stopping. So many reasons (she took hours to B'feed, it wasn't fair on Harry, so many latching probs meant too much air then too much wind and reflux, ohh and my PND and anxiety...). At 4 months we called it quits and it was such a painful decision," Rennie wrote.

I still feel guilty every day that I'm not breastfeeding Aoife anymore. Because mum guilt is a HUGE BITCH. I had my reasons for stopping. So many reasons (she took hours to B'feed, it wasn't fair on Harry, so many latching probs meant too much air then too much wind and reflux, ohh and my PND and anxiety...). At 4 months we called it quits and it was such a painful decision. Life definitely got easier, we were all a lot happier. But I still, 8 months on, think I gave up too easily. I didn't, I know that, but I still can't help being really hard on myself... Add to that the stare I got from a woman today at the park when I pulled out Aoife's bottle... Jesus, it was SO judgey. The thing is, FED is best. Aoife was (and still is) more satisfied on the bottle. It doesn't matter how we feed our babies, as long as it's safe and they're nourished and happy. Never doubt your choices, you have to do what's right for you and your whole family - whether that be breastfeeding until they're toddlers or never being able to even start. And tell mum guilt to just F OFF 😜😂 [PS I've found the comfiest 'I don't have to change bras before leaving the house' wire free bra that actually holds me up properly - prior to finding these I was still wearing my old grotty maternity bras around 😂 🙈#sohotrightnow Thanks @bfreeaustralia 🙌🏼] #fedisbest #bottlefeeding #uniteinmotherhood #nofiltermum

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While mom guilt is something so many moms face regardless of whether they breastfeed or formula feed, the truth is that societal pressures play a major role in causing mothers to second-guess their decisions. Rennie touched on this in her post as well—while she and her daughter were "happier" after she stopped trying to breastfeed, she admitted that she continued to doubt her decision to stop nursing shy of the recommended six months. "I still can't help being really hard on myself," she wrote. "Add to that the stare I got from a woman today at the park when I pulled out Aoife's bottle... Jesus, it was SO judgey. The thing is, FED is best. Aoife was (and still is) more satisfied on the bottle. It doesn't matter how we feed our babies, as long as it's safe and they're nourished and happy."

The good news? This fierce mama has found the best solution for dealing with mama guilt. Her advice? Just tell that feeling to "F off!" It sounds simple, but it just might work: Telling yourself that guilt is a worthless emotion, and that all you can possibly do is your personal best, just might be the magical answer to crushing that pesky mom guilt.

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