The Infuriating Way a Birth Photographer May Have Judged a C-Section Mom

You'll never believe what this birth photographer allegedly said to a mom who was preparing to deliver by C-section. Can we just stop judging other moms already?

Moms are constantly judged for every little thing they do—and sadly, this judgement clearly sets in before moms have even welcomed their babies. Which is why it isn't too hard to believe this controversial post that's gone viral—despite some claims that the text exchange was a hoax.

Here's the scoop: A mom-to-be was expecting to give birth with a professional photographer in the room. The mom posted a screenshot of her alleged conversation with the photographer, and it might make you ragey—especially if you've given birth via C-section. Here's what went down: The mother presumably told her photographer of her birth plan, which involved a C-section. This prompted the photographer to refuse to shoot the birth. 

"A surgery isn't birth, my dear," the photographer allegedly wrote. "You are having surgery to remove your baby from your abdomen...if you decide to give motherhood a go from the get and have an actual birth let me know and we can schedule your session."

Wait. What? Is this birth photographer seriously insinuating that carrying a child for 40 weeks and then—more importantly—raising him or her means you're not "giving motherhood a go" just because you didn't push?

The photo of this conversation was shared on Sanctimommy's Facebook page, and commenters are coming to the mother's rescue. "[S]o csection babies don't have birthdays then I guess, since they are never born," one commenter wrote.

Another added: "I'd hate to know what the photographer would say if she'd been hired to photograph the conception, and found out the mom had taken the easy way out with IVF. Cutting corners!" 

"Why does a birth photographer care how someone has their baby?" a third commenter added. "We should be able to show their names. Also doesn't this idiot know that without c sections many women would die? Childbirth is risky."

We’re not sure if this story is real or fake, but regardless, it gives us an opportunity to reinforce an excellent point: Birth is birth, no matter whether it's by surgery or the natural way. Some moms have vaginal births, others have C-sections, others adopt and others still use surrogates. Whatever the case may be, they are all valid paths to motherhood.