A husband posted a tribute to his wife, who will carry her pregnancy to term despite the fact that her baby doesn't have a brain, for one brave and heartbreaking reason.
Keri Young was at a prenatal appointment when her doctor gave her tragic news. Her baby—whom Keri and her husband had already named Eva—has anencephaly, which means a large part of her brain is missing. Their child wouldn't survive long after birth.
Keri understood her baby wouldn't have a chance at life, but she decided to carry her to term anyway, and the reason she made this choice is nothing short of heroic, as these words from her husband, Royce, attest.
"I thought back to the moment where we found out Eva wasn't perfect, and how literally 30 seconds after our doctor told us our baby doesn't have a brain, somehow through full body ugly crying, Keri looked up and asked, 'If I carry her full term, can we donate her organs?' I remember our doctor putting her hand on Keri's shoulder and saying, 'Oh honey, that's so brave of you to say.' Like, how nice of you, but come on. Keri meant it. There I was, crestfallen and heartbroken, but I momentarily got lifted out of the moment and just stood in awe of her. I was a spectator to my own life, watching a superhero find her superpowers. In literally the worst moment of her life, finding out her baby was going to die, it took her less than a minute to think of someone else and how her selflessness could help. It's one of the most powerful things I've ever experienced," Royce wrote.
Keri plans to give birth to the baby—to endure all the aches and pains that come with pregnancy, to go through with the delivery, and to continue carrying a child despite these unthinkable circumstances. It's hard for us to even wrap our heads around the magnitude of her sacrifice. Selflessness is a huge part of being a mother, but what Keri is doing? That takes it to a whole new level.
"We're getting closer to the finish line, and while it's going to be amazing to run through that tape and meet Eva, it comes at a cost. We'll go to the hospital for a birth, and go home without a baby," Royce wrote. "A lot of people say things like, "I wouldn't change anything" after a trying circumstance, but I'm not about to say that. I would definitely change this if I could. I want my daughter to be perfect. I want her to blow out her candles on her first birthday. I want to watch her bang her head on our coffee table trying to learn to walk. I want her to run up a cell phone bill texting boys. I want to walk her down an aisle. I want to change it all so, so badly. But I can't. This is our reality. And there's no stopping it."
Keri shared her own post about the situation her family is facing. She admitted that this wasn't an easy choice for her to come to and revealed how she ultimately reached her decision.
"[T]his was not a religious decision," she wrote in a Facebook post. "Yes, we were and still are influenced by our beliefs but this goes beyond that. This is life. Everyone has it. Everyone deserves it. At one point in the past 72 hours Royce and I talked about how, in a way, we're a little lucky. We have a definitive answer. We're not hoping for a miracle. We know she will not live. But someone else is desperately hoping for a miracle. Their kidneys are failing them. Their liver has betrayed them. They deserve life, and they're probably praying for it. Eva can be their answer to it."