Two women who have battled infertility teamed up to create a stunning photo series—and it'll teach everyone a thing or two about infertility.
If you've experienced infertility, you know that the feelings associated with it can't quite be put into words. That's why Victoria Hamilton and Abbie Fox decided to paint—or rather shoot—a picture of the struggle instead.
Hamilton has been a longtime follower of Fox, a Las Vegas-based photographer who has struggled with infertility and miscarriage herself.
“Vikki actually contacted me," Fox told Fit Pregnancy. "She has been following my page since one of the times she found out she was pregnant. She just reached out and asked me if I’d be willing to do pictures like this for her. I’d done a few picture0telling storylines, so she knew I’d be good at coming up with a concept. Having my own miscarriage and dealing with infertility myself, it was like…I had to do it. I knew it was going to be hard but I had to do it, and it was kind of healing for both of us.”
The two women came up with various concepts for the series—the photos are stunning, but more importantly, they speak volumes about the emotions that come along with infertility and miscarriage.
Hamilton, who blogs about her fertility struggle a Beyond the Poppy Seed, came up with a poignant image that sums up her own journey. “The picture with her [wearing the red tutu], that represents a poppy," Fox explained. "When you’re about four weeks along, right when you find our you’re pregnant, they always say that your baby is the size of a poppy seed. In every pregnancy she’s had, she’s barely gotten past that point. She represents the poppy flower with her struggle—that was totally her idea."
Fox also created a concept to depict her own feelings towards infertility. "I sat down and made a list of all the things I was feeling, and kind of what my thought process was through my own struggle. I kept going back to the [image of a] tornado because that’s the way it felt inside. Everything inside was just a mess. My emotions were a mess, I just felt like I was in a non-stop tornado," she said.
Ultimately, Fox set out to tell a story and make a powerful statement about the nature of infertility. "It’s really hard for people who have not gone through it to understand how hard it is, whether you’ve lost a baby at four weeks or you’ve lost a baby full term as a stillborn baby or if you’ve just never been able to be pregnant at all," she said. "There’s a lot of shame in it. As women, [having children] is like what we’re ‘supposed’ to do. There’s a lot of thinking ‘what am I doing wrong?’"
Fox also added that she hopes both those who have never suffered through infertility and those who have take something from the series. "A lot of times people say ‘you can just adopt,’ but it’s hard. I believe a lot more women would open up about their struggle if they didn’t think they were going to get advice on how to fix it. I also want people who are going through it to know it’s OK to talk about it," she said.