TTC? 14 Ways to Show Yourself Some Love This Mother's Day

Mother's Day can be tough if you're trying to conceive. Practice self-care with these 14 tips.

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With 1 in 8 couples struggling to conceive or carry a baby to full term, it's no surprise Mother's Day can be a tough holiday for many. While every mama definitely deserves her day to shine, it's also important to remember those of us who are still on their journey to motherhood.

As a TTC woman myself, I know damn well I don't take enough time to take care of myself—and I know I'm not alone. So with some well-deserved self-care in mind, here are 14 ways to help have a happier day this weekend.

1. Do YOUR thing

"Avoid the crowd, the 'brunchers,' and do YOUR thing. Because even if it's not what you pictured, it can still be a time to unwind with the one you love who's been with you through the thick of it." —Jamie Sumner, author of The Mom Gene

2. Avoid social media

"Prior to Anya, my daughter, I avoided social media on Mother's Day. I wasn't a good sport for decades, but recently I've become better at being at peace." —Wendy Jo Peterson, MS, RDN, author and nutrition expert

3. Have a good cry

It may sound counterproductive, but I've found that sometimes a good cry is the best medicine. Let yourself have the freedom to let go of those emotions and then do something that brings you true joy. 

4. Take a private yoga class

"Find a practitioner that specializes in meditative or restorative yoga so that the session is rejuvenating and releasing." —Susie Lemmer, author of The SuzLyfe

5. Exercise

"Take a walk! Being outside in the fresh air and sunshine with my fur-baby always seems to make things better. Plus, a little exercise naturally boosts your mood!" —Kelly, TTC

6. Treat yourself to your favorite meal

"Enjoy a meal that delights your senses and nourishes your body. We all have that one food or meal that feels like a warm hug; it's the perfect day to savor it fully." —Kendra Tolbert MS, RDN, CDN, CLC, author of Live Fertile

7. Spread kindness

"Be grateful and thankful for the beautiful women in your life. Whether that means showing gratitude through taking them to brunch or making them cookies, it always seemed to make me feel better." —Sara Haas, RDN, LDN, author of

8. Take a mini staycation

Budgets are tight—I know mine is!—especially during fertility treatments, but there's always an opportunity for an evening out. I love using Groupon, Living Social and other apps to get last-minute deals on local hotels. 

9. Hire a house cleaning service for a day

"A gift that I think ANY woman would very much appreciate is a house cleaning service!" —Susie Lemmer, author of The SuzLyfe

10. Grab a good book and check out for the afternoon

I've never been a diligent reader, but I've found comfort in my journey through reading stories from other women and how they beat the odds. Some of my favorites: In Due Time and Love, Faith & Infertility.

11. Buy a "me" present

Choose something that you really want and treat yourself to it without guilt. I just bought a new pair of high heels—they don't require me to stress about my fertility weight gain from the meds and make me feel like a new woman when I slip them on!

12. Pamper your mother, or another mom in your life

"I spend the day pampering and appreciating the woman who loves, supports and teaches me by example how to show kindness and generosity to others. I am blessed to call her mom and want to shower her with love and appreciation on this day, even though I'm still on my journey to baby." —Burke Barr, author of Baby Blues

13. Buy yourself some flowers

"After yet another negative pregnancy test, I bought myself one of the most gorgeous orchids I have ever seen while food shopping for the week. I absolutely love orchids, and seeing that beauty every time I walked into my house really brightened my day!" — Kelly, TTC

14. Practice simple self care

"Simple self care such as having a regular bedtime, drinking the proper amount of water and doing gentle movements daily such as yoga and stretching can help decrease cortisol. They are easy to integrate into a busy schedule." —DeJarra Sims, ND, assistant professor of naturopathic medicine at Bastyr University's California campus in San Diego and author of Your Healthiest Life Now

Though every person deals with this day in their own way, Dr. Wendy Shelly, physician at Fertility Specialists Medical Group reminds us to focus on the positive. "Mother's Day should be thought of as a celebration of motherhood in general, inclusive of those who are mothers and those who wish to be mothers. It celebrates all of us. This is a day to be positive and inspired for what the future holds!"