New Beginnings

12.30.10: The only New Year's Resolutions new parents need.


If you’re reading this blog, you don’t need a new calendar to highlight new beginnings. You’re all over that. Every cell in your body is working it’s mighty best to churn out a brand new little person. If you already have that baby in your arms, you don’t need any further proof that every moment is a miracle. You don’t need any New Year’s Resolutions for 2011 to remind you that every day is a fresh start for you and your baby. But if it just won’t be New Year’s Day without one, try these resolutions on for size and make a commitment to yourself this year:

1) Every time you catch your reflection in the mirror, no matter how lumpy, bumpy and big you are, tell yourself: “Yeah, baby, I’m hot. This is the body that can make a baby. This is the body that’s strong, powerful, sexy and capable of creating and nurturing the most fabulous person on earth. Who is that fabulous person? I bet you said, “my baby,” and I’ll give you partial credit because you’re right, of course. The best answer: You. Commit to telling yourself every day that you’re are the most fabulous person on earth. Don’t worry, your baby won’t mind. He’ll be grateful to have the best of the best raising him.

2) Every time you see your tired eyes, look directly into them and tell yourself “You are so gorgeous, honey.” You’ve kept your eyes open to all the possibilities your new baby brings. You can see the future and it is indeed bright. Every dark circle, crease and crinkle is part of the fabric of your life. Embrace them.

3) Every time you reach for your baby, whether it’s still inside you or screaming in the crib, say these little words – “I love you baby.” And when you do, say it to yourself as well as your child. Those four little words go a long way towards being a good mother and insuring you treat yourself and your baby kindly. When you’re at wit’s end and find yourself frustrated, exhausted and confused, saying “I love you, baby,” to yourself and your child takes just enough edge off the situation to add strength, calm and compassion when you need it.

4) At the end of the day tell your self, “Great job, girl.” It doesn’t matter what happened during that day. Compliments are powerful motivators. You deserve them.

5) Spread the love to your partner by dosing him up with confidence, compassion and compliments too. Make a commitment to avoid micromanaging and let him become the great father he is meant to be.

That’s it for this year, folks. Bring on 2011. May it be healthy, wealthy and bountiful.

Jeanne Faulkner, R.N., lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband and five children. Got a question for Jeanne? E-mail it to and it may be answered in a future blog post.

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