17 Questions You'll Have in the First Hour After Delivery

At the starting line of parenthood, don’t be surprised if bizarre questions begin to flood your brain. Our cheat sheet lets you save your Google searches for “baby sleep tips.” You’re gonna want those.

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1. Will my baby’s head always be the same shape that it is right now?

Breathe out—the cone-head thing is totally temporary. A quick anatomy lesson to help grasp why: “Our skulls are put together in pieces,” says David Hill, M.D., a pediatrician in Wilmington, North Carolina, and adjunct assistant professor of pediatrics at UNC School of Medicine. During delivery, “those pieces slide over each other so the baby is able to get out of the birth canal.” (Incidentally, C-section babies generally have a rounder head at birth because it doesn’t get squeezed on the way out.) This is called “molding,” and can cause many funny head shapes, all of which are normal. Your baby’s head will round out in about a week or two.

2. Should I stress that my baby didn’t get a 10 out of 10 on the APGAR?

Actually, no baby gets a 10. “The score technically goes up to 10, but doctors don’t give a 10 as a matter of superstition,” says Dr. Hill. “If your baby gets a 9, that’s amazing.” And if you’re wondering what exactly the APGAR is, it’s a way to immediately gauge how healthy babies are when they’re born. About one minute after birth and then again five minutes later, a doctor, midwife, or nurse will assess your baby’s breathing, heart rate, muscle tone, reflexes, and skin color—and each category is scored a 0, 1, or 2 depending on the observed condition. A total score of 7, 8, or 9 is normal, and if an infant scores below a 7, extra medical attention is given. “Parents should know that while a low APGAR score describes a baby who’s having a tough time at birth, it is in no way an indication of future health,” explains Dr. Hill.

3. Can I get sushi delivered to my hospital room?

Yes! Eventually you’ll realize you’re starving because, well, those clear liquids you were living on to get the baby out don’t cut it. “C-section patients have to wait several hours to eat, but a mom who has an uncomplicated vaginal delivery can eat immediately,” says Kim Rodgers, a labor and delivery nurse in Philadelphia. Hello, no dietary restrictions! “We have a menu folder for moms so they can order from local restaurants that deliver right to their room,” says Rodgers. Your hospital may too. Inquire!

4. Why do I put the baby to my breast when no milk is coming out?

Because doing so cues your body to start making milk. Plus, antibody-rich colostrum is what babies are meant to get for the first three days, says Meredith Lichtenberg, a board-certified lactation consultant in New York City. And remember: Your newborn’s stomach capacity is about the size of a teaspoon at birth. If you’re overwhelmed by the “try to breastfeed!” directive, lay your baby, wearing only a diaper, on your bare chest. This is great for regulating your newborn’s temperature, it feels lovely for both of you, and it often results in spontaneously latching, says Lichtenberg. And if you need help, ask for it—just be sure you get the right person, as not all advice is good advice: Say, “I would like some help with breastfeeding. Who’s qualified to do that?” 

5. Should I take that hard-core pain med?

You definitely don’t have to, says Stuart Lustberg, M.D., an ob-gyn in Huntington, New York, who’s been delivering babies for more than 30 years. There is a big push by government agencies, hospitals, and physicians to decrease the use of prescription pain meds due to the risk of developing a dependency or addiction. His rule of thumb: If you’ve had a vaginal delivery, try to stick with OTC pain relief to soothe cramping. “You’ll heal the same without prescription meds and you’ll avoid their side effect of severe constipation,” says Dr. Lustberg. But if you’ve had a C-section, the constipation is likely going to be worth the much-needed relief. Even if you’re not planning to have a C-section, it’s worth talking to your doctor now about how she approaches pain relief after surgery. 

6. Wait, how much does my baby weigh?

It used to be that babies were weighed and footprinted immediately after delivery, but that’s no longer the case in many hospitals. “Now we encourage skin-to-skin bonding as soon as the umbilical cord is cut,” says Rodgers. “We try to allow a full hour for that plus breastfeeding, then we’ll do the measurements.” This just means you’re going to have to wait a little longer to find out how much weight you’ve lost. Joking! 

7. Is it too soon to have a glass of champagne?

Of course, you deserve a celebratory toast. “Get through your recovery period—two hours for vaginal, around 12 hours for a C-section—and then one drink is fine,” says Dr. Lustberg. As for whether your baby will get some bubbly from your breast? “There is so little volume of colostrum that even if alcohol does get in, it’s a tiny amount,” says Lichtenberg.

8. Can I get up and walk around?

The answer depends on a few factors. After an epidural, you have to wait until the numbness wears off—usually about an hour or two, and then you’ll still need a hand. For women who have a C-section, be prepared not to be moving much until 12 to 18 hours after delivery. Remember, you just had surgery! Even if you have a vaginal delivery with no epidural, your nurse will still want to give you a hand when you walk to the bathroom. The reason for the kid gloves: “After giving birth, changes in your cardiovascular system greatly affect blood volume and pressure, so it’s easy for you to become dizzy,” says Dr. Lustberg. “You could fall and hurt yourself.” It’s the policy of most hospitals that even moms who have a vaginal delivery without an epidural are wheelchaired to the maternity wing. Just take the ride; you certainly deserve it. 

9. What happens if I touch my baby’s head?

Ah, the scary soft spot. Now that you’re a grown-up, here’s the deal: “Normal adult touching with gentle fingertips is totally fine!” says Lichtenberg. This “be careful” concern is directed more toward toddlers and other little buggers who may be around your baby—and captivated. “We probably remember being told about this precaution when we were kids, so it’s become ingrained in us, but now you can let it go,” Lichtenberg says. Even more good news: The soft spot, which medically speaking is a space between the bones of the skull that gives your baby’s head room to grow, closes up by around 12 months. 

10. How much bleeding is too much?

Be prepared to soak through several industrial-size pads the first day after delivery, whether you delivered vaginally or by C-section. “The morning after giving birth, most patients will pass a blood clot that can be as large as a tangerine,” says Dr. Lustberg. This. Will. Freak. You. Out. But it gets better with each day. If you’re breastfeeding, you can expect a gush of blood to come out each time your baby latches on. However, nursing lessens your overall bleeding because it helps the uterus contract faster. 

11. Will it hurt when I first go to the bathroom?

Urination can burn a little because of the trauma to the urethral opening, but the pain is nothing like, well, delivering a baby. There may also be some stinging if you had a catheter (all patients with an epidural get one) or an episiotomy. “If that’s the case, and your provider offers you topical sprays and ointments to numb the area, use them,” says Dr. Lustberg. You’ll also get a spray bottle to spritz water on the area so you don’t have to wipe, since toilet paper may feel like the enemy. As for bowel movements, if you had a vaginal delivery, you should be fine, but do use that numbing cream if you had a bad tear. A C-section patient can expect some trouble with that first stool, particularly if the pain meds cause constipation. You’ll get stool softeners to help you go, but just a heads up: You’ll need to have a number two to get discharged. 

12. Is my baby’s snorting, choking sound normal?

In a word, yes. “Your baby is going from living in amniotic fluid in your womb to breathing air, so there is a lot of fluid and mucus that needs to get mobilized,” says Dr. Hill. “A newborn will be pretty spitty and gaggy for about the first 24 hours of life—sometimes longer, especially if you have a C-section, because the baby didn’t get wrung out coming through the birth canal.” The gunk usually clears up after the first day, but ask your doc about it if you’re worried.

13. What’s that plastic tub in the bathroom for?

This little tub fits inside your toilet—you fill it with warm water and then you sit down for what’s called a “sitz bath.” If you required any stitches, don’t toss this thing aside! “Sitz baths are really helpful, yet underutilized,” says Dr. Lustberg. Even if you don’t feel any immediate relief, he notes, there is a long-term payoff: “If you do it three times a day for three weeks, you will heal perfectly.” A sitz bath also keeps the area clean to prevent infections; remember, you may have open wounds down there that need TLC. 

14. Is it okay to change into my normal clothes now?

You certainly can, but holding off might be better. “I encourage moms to keep the hospital gown on, as it’s a little messy down there the first day and those thin mesh underwear you get aren’t exactly leakproof,” says Rodgers. “Most moms just want to put a bra on as soon as possible, which I definitely understand!” 

15. How soon can I first have sex?

Just kidding, you won’t have this question, but your partner might. The answer, so you’re prepared: about six weeks.

16. Why do I feel achy, like I have the flu?

Having a baby is like running a marathon, says Dr. Lustberg. The physical exertion is unbelievable! And while only a small percentage of people can run marathons, millions of women deliver a baby each year, he says. All that pushing can even pop blood vessels in your eyes, so you may have some red postpartum peepers. (Don’t worry, there’s probably a filter for that.) It’s reasonable to expect that, yeah, you’re going to ache for a few days. “It could be arm pain, shoulder pain, groin pain,” he says. “That’s why we encourage patients to rest at home for as long as they can, drink lots of fluids, eat well, and stay on their prenatal vitamins for six weeks after giving birth.”

17. Why didn’t anyone tell me giving birth was like THAT?!

Well, now you can prep other moms-to-be with info you didn’t get! “I try to be honest with my patients and tell them what to expect before they even bring it up, so I can give their concerns a positive spin,” says Rodgers. “For instance, I might say, ‘Yes, you may poop while you’re pushing, but that means you’re doing it right and we love to see that!’ ”  Dr. Lustberg agrees: “Yes, there will be blood, there will be pain, but women are strong. I don’t want to tell you it will be easy, but I don’t want to scare you either. The bottom line: You can do it. If we men had to give birth, it would be the end of the human race. Women are much stronger than men. Any male obstetrician will tell you that!”