Getting The Hang Of Being A New Mom

A study finds that building confidence as a new mom takes an average of four months and 23 days.


For some women, new motherhood is a snap. For others, it can be tough getting into the swing of things and it takes time to become a natural. A 2012 study has actually put a number on it: four months and 23 days to be exact, according to a report from the Daily Mail.

"Researchers have found that that is the average time it takes for a new mother to [come] to grips with the revolution in her lifestyle. After nearly five months, new mothers bounce back as they get a routine nailed down having found the confidence to be able to deal with every eventuality thrown at them," the Daily Mail report says.

According to the study, which was commissioned by the baby brand Munchkin, experiencing several "firsts" was crucial in order for a new mom to start feeling like things were falling into place. For example, the Daily Mail article said the study cited an infant sleeping through the majority of the night, and mom not panicking when the baby has a temperature.

Researchers also found that 57 percent of new mothers polled admitted that "those first few months after the birth passed by in a bit of a blur because they were so worried about getting everything right," the Daily Mail says. When the same mothers were polled months later, "looking back, 6 in 10 say they wish they'd not worried as much as they did at the time."

In addition, one-fifth of polled moms "didn't talk to anyone about their worries" for fear of being thought of as a failing or a struggling mother. One in 5 of those polled also thought "their partner settled into being a parent quicker than they did, which led to feelings of envy," according to the Daily Mail report.

Being a mom is mostly a self-confidence game. Remember, your baby already thinks you're top-notch! Check out our 10 Ways to be a More Confident Mom page to help you realize it, too.

Remember not to get tied down with "have to's." Our Almost Perfect page shows you how flexibility as a new mom goes a long way — even if things are rough for a little bit. It will get better!